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No contact is so hard sometimes

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#1 Jun 1 - 10PM
Littleone
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No contact is so hard sometimes

Why do we want to contact the source of our pain?
I keep hoping in the back of my mind that he will have changed. That he will acknowledge the error of his ways and will make productive steps to correct them.
He's not who I thought he was, he is something much darker, meaner and cruel.
I guess hope is a large part of the human condition, but there is simply no hope for these people.
One half me wants to help him lift out of his shallow life, the other half wants him to wallow in it. All very confusing...

Jun 1 - 10PM
wacaet
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we want them to act like

we want them to act like normal human beings, to feel regrets and sorrow for hurting others and to want to make things right we want them to love us like they said they did we want them to be what they are not....they are aliens and can't be human I want mine to email or call and say he joined AA and is working the steps and wants to make amends for how he treated me. But then, I don't really because I'd get sucked right back in. I'm not strong enough yet to handle talking to him. So, I just keep reminding myself he's not a human in the way I've always believed humans to be. He's "feelings" are foreign to me and if I try to understand it, I get cognitive dissonance.