Its not easy if you have complete severing of ties.
But Its positively the only goal.
These people who have little or not empathy have no idea how to compromise or how to empathise.
SO your needs as a parent or as a human will mean nothing to them.
What you might need, if it has any consequence to them, will only be given with conditions and as bargaining chips for what they can get from you.
I was 'Allowed' certain time to persue my martial arts. now the prick has said I can no longer have the Sunday to train. I dont go out drinking or partying. I work and mother and thats the top and bottom of it. I have one passion. Tai chi/Kung Fu. 2 classes a week on whoch he has our son at his house. he says I can no longer have this because it doesn't suit his agenda.
He cant drain me or hurt me like he used to so he has to find something he can still hurt me with by saying he can longer have our son on the only weekend day I ask him to have him. We co-parent because our son goes to Steiner. Another misatke I made with him. Sadly my son loves his school. But I gave up yet more of my freedom to narc by chooosing that, because its only three short mornings. and the narc pays the bill. (well so long as his hooky work doesn't fall form under him which I blieve it will) And he thinks that he does enough to have him while I am working.
So where does this take me now???
I have to find resources.
I hate him right now.
I didnt even reply to his long dumb e-mail.
Asking me to hurry up and get on with our divoirce and that he will continue to pay me money if I assume major parental responsability.
I have to get NO CONTACT...
There is no safe or limited contact with this type of person.
Every time they give you a little rope, they pull it back again, they tell you you can have a little more rope and then when your not looking they use the same rope to hang you with.
They are dangerous and NOTHING to MOURN.
I DO NOT MISS MY EX NARC ONE BIT!
He is truly dark and miserable inside.
he know Tai chi is propelling my healing and he can use that knowledge to completely cut me off from the light he is jelous and envious off in me.
I dont what to hate but I do hate right now.