Nice girls dont rage ?
Nice girls dont rage ?
Believe it or not the rage stage of recovery should be seem as great progress with a big pat on the back when you reach it ... and you will know when you have reached it , it is a hair pulling , clothes ripping rage that most of us have never felt before .
Rage is the point of the up turn and the fight back in recovery and is to be celebrated.
It is hard to handle as most of us have been brought up to think that nice girls dont get angry , nice girls dont stab a pillow with a pen screaming die you fu*ker DIE! But get agngy we must and how we handle it is important . Essentualy we need to have an outlet for our angry emotions Mine was to ride my bike round town like a mad woman muttering obscenities under my breath with the occasional "WANKER" said out loud , one of our old timers on the board use to dig great big holes in her garden and then fill them in again (cool eh?). Its about finding an outlet that works for you that doent involve picking up the phone and screaming at the narc which would amout to golden supply to a psychopath .
It is a wonder to me that the way we heal and the way our brain works has a universal patten of stages ,it almost feels like someone upstairs is orchestrating it , helping us on our way through the pain .. its truely a wonder .
So if you are raging today .. high five sister !
My rage lasted for about 6 weeks , thats not to say i was frothing at the mouth for all that time but i do remember that stage and although it was scary , now looking back i realise how essential it was to keep me no contact and to propel me on my healing journey .
Big love Scoop xx
u have just described me
OMG
lately I have been going often to the tennis courts and picking
I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.
--Helen Keller
For good girls get to heaven,
Bravo!
Being told not to be angry
Sunafterrain, exactly! Don't
Sparrow
Sun! So glad to hear it!
This is something I never experienced
winter
Sun
Great Post, Scoop!
Overwhelming rage...
I agree!
Sparrow
Then I guess I am NOT a nice girl!!!
I'm not a good girl either...........
Scoopers!
SAR absolutely great that you
Scoopers