The next victim. At work. Seeing it happen.

9 posts / 0 new
Last post
#1 Sep 27 - 2PM
It.Was.All.Abou...
It.Was.All.About.Her.'s picture

The next victim. At work. Seeing it happen.

I'm watching her line up the next victim at work. I wish I didn't know. But I let myself hear the updates. It's hard to get NC at work. In fact I ran into the n as well. She went out if her way to talk to me. I was polite, pleasant, detached.

The new victim is a married woman. I feel for what I think she is about to go through. The mote disruption they can cause, the more energized they look. Yet I can't say anything and I'd bet the new victim was told I'm a pathetic stalker. I try not to let that bother me, but it does. This doesn't seem like sustainable work model. She has no fear.

Sep 27 - 3PM
How could I
How could I's picture

Hard to watch isn't it?

Hard to watch isn't it? It really hurts. When he talks to me about business, it is all polite and nice too. I think what bothers me the most is in some way I feel as though she (OW) has won and I have lost. Do you feel this way?
Sep 27 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
silly
silly's picture

mine used to buy me

mine used to buy me everything and pay for everything --- he thought this was the only way to my heart... he's now doing this to the OW ... and she loves it --- so low to take advantage of this
Sep 27 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
silly
silly's picture

omg... this sounds exactly

omg... this sounds exactly like my story... i feel exactly the same way - like i am the loser, like i am being looked at like this ugly pathetic piece of crap.. like she is better looking... it really effects me..
Sep 27 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
It.Was.All.Abou...
It.Was.All.About.Her.'s picture

Winning

I understand how you feel, but I don't feel that way this time. It makes me miss the overvaluing stage, but I'm more concerned for the new one than anything. There is/ was one in between the new victim and me. Maybe more. But I didn't have much love for her, as she took part in my punishment/discard. And she was smug. Also a victim, I assume.
Sep 27 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Used
Used's picture

itwasallabouther

I UNDERSTAND YOU. i cant have any sympathy for exn ow, b/c she actually gloated[at first] when telling me....when i began telling her, she wasent gloating then.....
Sep 29 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
It.Was.All.Abou...
It.Was.All.About.Her.'s picture

Setbacks

Yesterday was tough. I got to see the new victim basking in the psychopathic glow. And the new one got flowers at work. It's tough. A lot of tears yesterday. Some at work, which sucks. I hate being undone like this. It makes me want to go back to isolating myself. And I have to see her. I have to work. It's so hard. So painful.
Sep 27 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Used
Used's picture

how could i

i know what you are saying, BUT if anybody has won, its him.....she will be where you are one day, and she wont have won anything..... do you maybe feel that she has betrayed you b/c you were friends, understandable, its like feeling women should stick together.....he has betrayed you...how could I...he is the one that made empty lying promises to you,b/c you love him so much ,its her you want to blame...blame her if you like ,but blame him as well...
Sep 29 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
How could I
How could I's picture

Used...

Used... You are so right, I do feel betrayed by her. But, that really isn't fair as I still don't believe she knew about us. Most likely she still doesn't. And, he is still denying that there is anything going on. I haven't seen them together much. Don't know if there is trouble in paradise, if he has moved on, or they are just being more clever in hiding it. All in all, I guess it really doesn't matter. I could never marry him as I will never trust him. He has thrown that all away. In thinking about it, I believe he desired (or maybe still does desire) me, but he never really loved me. Don't think he is capable of real love. Still hurts, but I am slowly healing and my eyes are opened more each day!