New & Scared. Feeling so Helpless
New & Scared. Feeling so Helpless
This is my first time posting but have been reading for a year. My story is the same as everyone elses but just alittle bit different. I went out with my N boyfriend for over 3 years. Was D & D'd a million times but always went back thinking this time I learned what to do & not do to make him happy. Well, as we all know the rules are ever changing. The final break-up was, he got another girlfriend and brought her home. We are next door neighbors. This was my absolute punishment and happened a year ago. I went thru hell, crying and healing in my house but seeing everything he was doing with her. About 4 months later, when he got her hooked, he started professing his undying love to me, missing me and wanting to marry me. I fell for it, it lasted 7 weeks (this was in June). Well, he is back at it again and has been since October. I have changed my cell no., blocked him from my home phone no., blocked him from facebook but he will not give up. He leaves notes, food and watches when I come home. I have tried no contact for 3 months but he is relentless. He will not give up. A few weeks ago, I gave in, I couldn't take it anymore. I just wanted his persistance and the pain to go away. A bit of info. you need to know, is that throughout the year he always kept his girlfriend, just D & Ding her was she was a very bad girl.
What scares me and why I am writing, is that I am so afraid I am going to fall for it again (how much he loves me). He would marry tomorrow. I have seen, 3 girls and me go thru the same abusive relationship. His wife died (literally) of a broken heart at age 40, we were friends and I never believed her when she told me what she went through. After 20 yrs, with him, she looked crazy and he had me convinced of it. I have a hard time forgiving myself for not helping her.
I have a psychology degree, I am strong, independent and knowlagable in N. but he has turned me into a crazy, little girl. I turn into a different person around him and its so scary. I just want him to leave me alone but he wont until we are married and then I know the real hell begins. I have been no contact and fighting him off for so long and I am tired. I am getting weak because I truly do love him and when its good its so good. This is so hard, even though I know he will continually hurt me. Can someone please give me some words of wisdom and stop me from destroying my life.
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Helldweller
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Marriage?
FOR AGNES MURPHY
And taking advantage of you
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sick of it
My Friend
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Over it...Aceonelady
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Over-it, and listen,,,,
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