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A New perspective on receiving emails from your ex Narc

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#1 Jun 25 - 10AM
lisalisa47
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A New perspective on receiving emails from your ex Narc

Has anybody ever thought that when your ex narc "stops by" via email just to "threaten, accuse, whine" or try to elicit your pity, it's just his or her sick and twisted way of giving you a "shout out"?

The first of the last 2 emails i received from mine, i first replied - "Why are you STILL F&&&KN with me? Don't you have any other stupid trusting women with elderly well off parents to distract you?" Now. I thought that was a brilliant, on the mark comment that deserved at least a "passing nod" from him, but as usual, in Narc fashion, he ignored it.

So the second ranting and raving email i recevied, i simply replied with "Hey, nice to hear from you - you seem to be doing well" and left it at that. LOL

Jun 25 - 2PM
empath
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supply is supply is supply

Whether its positive or negative attention, its still attention, its still supply. The only way to respond to that, is not to respond. NC is the way to go with these persistent hoovering Ns. They get a charge out of knowing that you react/respond. Please go NC and stay NC; please don't give them the satisfaction, and don't subject yourself to allowing them to reach you with their crazymaking behavior.
Jun 25 - 11AM
twisted
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The last text I received from

The last text I received from my narcky was at 3 o'clock in the morning to say he had watched a movie that reminded him of me, after months of hearing nothing, 2 years post break up and long time into his new narcationship with his OW. Maybe mine's a special breed of everlasting narc. Anyway, my response a day later was Nice to hear you're thinking of me. (I also thought that was pretty good and put it back on him for crawling out to me)..but boy those narcs, they have a way...bc then he texted me back Is it really? (and I'll admit, I fell for it giving him the benefit of the screaming doubt for the umpteenth time thinking he might be sincere) So I said, Yes, why? And that lobbed the ball right back into his control court and all he responded was :P and then went silent again. Makes me sick. Although, I have to say that his response was so blantently a game that he put a big fat nail in his own coffin by being such an obvious dick. All I could do was shake my head and feel like a fool for falling for it once again. And who texts someone out of the blue at 3 in the morning?! Made me feel like a dirty little secret.
Jun 25 - 10AM
indenial
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Lol

He will hate that. Both of those replies and the fact that they were both a totally different reaction. They are open to being made fools of and looking stupid I think. Because they just don't care. they have no shame ot pride and are so intent on "winning" that they just leave themselves open to be treated the same way as they treat people I think. I'm seeing it with my ex n. He's making a total fool of himself and my words are so cutting and brutally honest that I'm surprised he hasn't run off screaming and melting. I'm having a better day today. Hope it lasts xx
Jun 25 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
Susan32
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Very true!

"They just leave themselves open to be treated the same way as they treat people"-Oh heavens YES!!! The ex-Psych prof enjoyed publicly humiliating me, mocking me in front of people&behind back... so when the senior skit MOCKED HIM... he couldn't bear it. He went running out. He looked like a fool when he got up during the scene ridiculing him, running out the door like a scared rabbit. He looked like a fool when he ran down the stairs like a coward instead of introducing his girlfriend to his colleagues. I KNOW I humiliated the ex-P when I broke NC in '09... and ZERO of his colleagues called me out on it. None of them said "That was mean." Or "How dare you ridicule someone like that, comparing them to a tantrum-throwing newborn." He didn't respond in ANY way, shape or form. NOTHING looks more stupid than a teacher being compared to a bedwetting infant&having his father called "Daddy." He looked stupid... and he did nothing to defend himself like a normal person would. I got an email from the Dean of my college... we didn't bring up the ex-P... nor did she bring up how I dealt some EPIC NARC INJURIES back in '09.