New here! Lots of ?'s please do tell.
New here! Lots of ?'s please do tell.
I have a lifetime narc men! Father, brothers, uncles, teen boy-freinds, husband of 23years...then a divorce 10 years ago. Been doing my emotional and spriritual healing work all this time. It took me 4 years to begin dating after divorce. Then proceeded to be with 4 more narcs!!! What did I learn? 1-short term few weeks, 2nd same thing, then 3rd off and on for 4 years...That one nearly killed me. I put up with so much because I thought I LOVED HIM...not now! I went through cancer during time with him, homeless, bankruptcy, hell basically.
Finally got it (I thought). I did lots of healing about narc men and have had NC with the 3rd one for 6 months. Haven't seen him face to face for a year. THEN about 3 months ago I went online, felt healed and all that jazz, met someone I new before so doubly thought he was for real. We had a 2 month relationship and I started seeing the warning signs! We broke up 3 weeks ago. He started doing the D&D thing. Non communication...etc. I knew I was going to end it. He was suppose to call me, didn't then I found him online on the same dating site we met on. He didn't have the decency to end it with me first! I wrote him an email ending it CLOSURE and telling him "basically" what a jerk he was. (I know this fell on deaf ears as reading and learning here.) Now I have received 3 emails from him, nasty, short, ranting about how much money he spent on me, wanting his "property" back. His property consisted of bathroom toiletries and dog chews for his dog. I threw them all away.
He luckily lives 2 and a half hours away. He GAVE me as gifts throughout the short time with him, a cell phone, earrings, a room fan, iPad accessory, small stuff. His last 3 emails were without empathy, full of entitlement, nasty, and now somehow...HE IS THE POOR VICTIM!?! Yep, a narc at very least. He threatened to call the police on me and press charges for his "property". I have been watching him online on that dating site to try to know what kind of a nut I am dealing with...Sociopath...Narc...etc. He changed so suddenly I saw a Jekhyll/Hyde before my eyes. I have been very afraid of him. He was on that site 3 weeks HOURS AND hours a day all hours of the night, desperate for sure!...Now he has found another woman to play as he is not on it for a few days now.
Trying to get to the point. When I emailed him with "closure" my last thing was to tell him "Do not contact me again". He has now emailed me with this petty stuff 3 times. I have NOT responded.
So FIRST question is...do I email him back and say ...look all your "property" which was a tooth brush, paste, comb, etc and dog chews were thrown away... All other things were gifts to me , etc and tell him now and again...Do not contact me again or I will call the police and press harassment charges. Or...? Ignore it...change my email address so he can't contact me, I already blocked my phone number, blocked him, his friends and family on Facebook...
What do you all think? I am in my 50's so is he. You would think people would know better...a man his age should. But I think now they are narcs till they die.
Thank you for reading and any ideas or experiences you could share are appreciated!!!
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