New email from the sister

8 posts / 0 new
Last post
#1 Aug 19 - 2PM
Goldie
Goldie's picture

New email from the sister

My X is in jail for assault on me. He stole over 5,000 and nearly destroyed my house with violent rages. When I asked his family for help to get him OUT of my house this is what I got from his sister:

"First off I am sorry to here nothing has changed yet still. I’m not really sure what you’re looking for to happen as far as his family is concerned. I’m am saddened that you did not take my advice and do what was best for you and only you. But as far as his family is concerned we went through 5 years of chances and forgiveness to have nothing change. We have all tried and tried to help M. but unfortunately he has shown this family no respect in return. With this said we can not help in any way. Also as far as emailing my birth mother is concerned she left my brother and I when I was 2 and Matthew was 4, so her concern in this situation I’m sure will be less than minimal. If you want to assist getting M. into rehab program, by than all means give it a shot. But if he doesn’t want it I wouldn’t waste your time. Rehabs and programs are only efficient for addicts who want to change their lives. I have brought him to rehab once already and he signed himself out. Other than that I’m not sure what else to say to you. It breaks my father’s heart everyday that he has no assistance for my brother and must constantly turn him away but he is protecting his family that he has left. So I would appreciate if my father is not concerned anymore about anything to do with Matthew. I also do not have the energy left to aid him in anything. I can not walk and addict through this road and I will not."

I also called the father and asked him to get this guy out of my house and his reply was: "NO, I am not getting involved."

Two weeks ago I get an email from the sister asking for his stuff and I sent her the "gifts for himself post on here". Apparently he has been able to con her once again since he's been in jail, since the first email I received. Now I am the bad guy and she is giving me attitude, like I did something wrong. This is the email that comes today:

"Re: Gifts for Himself
Ok...So i did ask one simple question and from what i gather it is a no. Thank you for your time and i will move foward as advised by law enforcement.
P.S.
I would really appreciate if you would have no contact with my mother and others in regards to family due to you are no longer needed to be communicating to her with you out of the picture of M's life.Thanks"

I am not even talking to her mother, nor does she for that matter.
So now I get threatened with the police, this is a civil matter they are not going to touch this. However it is just his way of still harrassing me. Who has the nerve to ask for a few clothing items back when they owe you thousands of dollars, oh I know who, A F ING FlAMING NARC. These people are getting on my last nerve. I don't have his stuff and it was nothing much anyway and he can't have it in jail. It is amazing how they are able to con their families over and over again. They all thought I was great and good to him until I put him in jail. Does not matter what he did to me, they don't care.

I am so pissed I can barely breathe right now. WTF!!!

God bless,
Goldie

Aug 20 - 8AM
helldweller
helldweller's picture

Goldie

Ooooooo! This makes me so mad! I keep thinking of mine's brother's girlfriend. She's like twenty-fiv and her boyfriend is fifty-five. He told her he was going to marry her and have children with her and then, apparently, the three brothers had a pow wow and now she is not allowed to talk about either subject anymore. She has, however, totally brainwashed herself to love this guy and think he loves her. When I used to call her up, you could hear how stunned she was when I told her the stuff the narc was doing to me. Then, after awhile, she just told me not to talk to her anymore, obviously trying to pretend it wasn't happening (including that the babysitter is still sleeping with her boyfriend). In the end, she was the one who wrote me the email saying, "I love my family, including the n, and my "nephew" (the foster child) with all my heart. I'm sorry you are not happy, but don't ruin my happiness with your bitterness." Little, stupid, brainwashed bitch.
Aug 20 - 8AM
helldweller
helldweller's picture

Goldie

Ooooooo! This makes me so mad! I keep thinking of mine's brother's girlfriend. She's like twenty-fiv and her boyfriend is fifty-five. He told her he was going to marry her and have children with her and then, apparently, the three brothers had a pow wow and now she is not allowed to talk about either subject anymore. She has, however, totally brainwashed herself to love this guy and think he loves her. When I used to call her up, you could hear how stunned she was when I told her the stuff the narc was doing to me. Then, after awhile, she just told me not to talk to her anymore, obviously trying to pretend it wasn't happening (including that the babysitter is still sleeping with her boyfriend). In the end, she was the one who wrote me the email saying, "I love my family, including the n, and my "nephew" (the foster child) with all my heart. I'm sorry you are not happy, but don't ruin my happiness with your bitterness." Little, stupid, brainwashed bitch.
Aug 19 - 10PM
almostlydia
almostlydia's picture

I guess if I answered at all

I guess if I answered at all it would be for some kind of public record saying nothing more than 'M and has family are no longer a part of my life. Consider this a formal request to not contact me any further.' That would be it. Let them deal with the disordered brother. It's now their problem, not yours. almostlydia

almostlydia

Aug 19 - 8PM
helldweller
helldweller's picture

Goldie

What a bunch of assholes. I really can't think of anything else to say. I have no patience for family who says, "Gee, I'm sorry our brother (son, father, etc) is a dick, but it has nothing to do with us. Good luck!" It would be fine if they didn't talk to him anymore, but I have dealt, too, with the whole "We love him and please don't talk to us anymore about him" bullshit. These people and their famiies are completely f*cking insane. And it's contagious! Do not respond! It's total crazy making bs! I stood while my n's brother said, "N's a pain in the ass. He is completely nuts and you won't change him. Take him or leave him. We love him." This was after THEY GOT MAD AT ME BECAUSE HE LIED TO ME ABOUT HAVING CANCER! It was MY fault for having a problem with that.
Aug 20 - 3AM (Reply to #2)
Goldie
Goldie's picture

Crazy makers

That is exactly what this is crazy making. I am doing relatively good here and this chick who says she wants nothing to do with her brother, emails me 2 weeks ago for stuff of his I don't have and then she has the nerve to email me again and tell me to stay away from the fam and that she is going to the authorities for his stuff when I have had nothing to do with these people in months. She is trying to gaslight me over something I am not even doing, NOW that she is back in her brothers good graces, now she can come along and play the "hero" and take care of her brother. She is a co dependent control freak. NOW she wants to control the situation after all the damage is done. She reminds me of my sister, who does nothing to help anyone and then when all the dirty work is done, she shows up to claim her prize, well then good If the prize is that now SHE gets to deal with all her brother's problems. O.K. then I forfeit the prize. Here he is, you go sister, he's all yours now. I am passing the torch back to his family where is belongs. The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree. I am just sick and tired of these freaks acting so cold and nasty about everything they do. I guess I was just hoping for some compassion after all I did for him. I can dream right? I was hoping she would say, oh I am so sorry for all that my brother put you through and I will not bother you anymore. This was my response and I called the prison Investigation Department and asked them to have him stop contaction me through her. "Leave me alone. I was very much in love with M and I gave him everything I had to give and tried to help him in every way possible. His way of thanking me was to lie to me, brag about his X's, steal my things, steal my college money, spit on me, hit me, trash me to his friends, cellmates, and coworkers, cheat on me, destroy my home, hurt my son, disrespect me on all levels, call me old and ugly, use me, call me unspeakable names, threaten to have me killed, and left me with mortgage payments, debt, and damage to my body, mind, and soul. The prison authorities have instructed M to have no contact with me himself or through third parties. I asked you and your Dad for help a long time ago and you had no desire to help me. You allowed this man to continue to hit me and steal from me. This is beyond my comprehension that you would harrass someone who did nothing but love your brother. I was good to M and obviously he is not telling you the truth. I need to heal from this. This man nearly destroyed my life. Please leave me alone. God bless you and I wish only the best for you A. God bless, Goldie
Aug 20 - 8AM (Reply to #3)
helldweller
helldweller's picture

Goldie

That response is perfect. I sent mine's brother an email at the end and said, "I have two small children and an eighty-four year old mother to care for. I need a partner and your brother has lied to me, cheated on me, turned his back on my children, beaten me up and taken all of my time, money, energy and health. No more. You deal with him." I was happy I got to make a dignified closing statement, as you have.
Aug 20 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
Goldie
Goldie's picture

Thank you for responding

Hi Helldweller, I am such a mess over this, I cannot stop crying. I was doing so good letting go of all of this and out of the blue months later I start getting these emails. I was good to these people and I tryed so hard to help M and he did nothing but trash me. I guess even though I totally do understand this sickness they have, I still thought in my heart that they would all feel that I had been through enough and that enough was taken from me and just simply: LEAVE ME ALONE. When is enough enough with these people? I know he is doing this to f--- with me because he does not think for one second that I still have his stuff. This is his last tie to me and she was his only chance to screw with my head some more. He is using her as a pawn to initiate contact because the prison told him that he could not try to contact me anymore. She just does not get the extent of her brothers sickness. He is in jail, bored, and looking for someone to screw with, someone to con somemore. This is not about his stuff. He wants to hurt me somemore. When it comes to a Sociopath and his family, apparently there is no compassion, remorse, guilt ect... they will just keep taking until there is not one speck of gold dust left on the table. The one good thing about all of this is that if I had any doubt deep within me about any possibilty of this man changing while in jail, this behavior is certainly dispelling any such myth. Thanks for your support. God bless, Goldie