Never thought he'd harrass me this much

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#1 Aug 8 - 2AM
driftingsister
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Never thought he'd harrass me this much

I am giving him no shit, I haven't contacted him since the early hours of Friday, so it's been three days. I worked out how to divert all his messages to another inbox so I never noticed when he was texting me.

Tonight at about 6.50pm he rung me and I never heard my phone go off but he rung twice and left a voicemail, I was at dinner at this time and listened it was him saying he needed to see me and he wasn't doing ok.

I got the password for my message inbox and this is what he's been texting..

Saturday
12.22am come over?

7.41pm so am I only going to hear from you when you're drunk?

9.22pm Okay, we ignoring me now huh. That's cool, I shall not contact you anymore and will ignore you also. Don't, repeat, don't ever call me drunk again. Goodbye.

Sunday (today)
4.38pm Can you please come over, I can't handle this. I miss you.

4.46pm I can come to you if you'd rather. Please, I need to see you. Remember how you got and didn't eat, had your friend text me and all? I'm the same..

5.01pm Stop ignoring me, considering I never ignored you this is very cold-hearted!

5.18pm Just never give that necklace away, it means a lot to me as it was my sisters. I figured you wouldn't accept it if I told you (his sister isn't real I found out very recently - that old trick ain't going to work on me no more!!)

6.59pm Meet me by your field. I see your lights are on. You can't do this to me. Please see me

7.04pm Please just hear me out. Why are you doing this? Please hun, please. I'm going nuts here

7.09pm I saw you and let you stay after 1am calls, and you can't even give me 5 fucking minutes? I'm struggling here, it's my sisters birthday on sunday, first time away from her.(what does that mean? she passed away in 1999. But she doesn't exist) I need someone please! I'm begging you!

7.18pm I stayed in wellington for you and you turn you back just like that! Thanks, I'll go back to Auckland, that's what you want aye.

7.19pm ANSWER ME FOR FUCK SAKE!

7.49pm I love you, I miss you, I need you. I'm nowhere as strong without you in my life. I just sit here staring at the two photos I have of you, just sit and get tearful

8.01pm Please....

8.23pm Just come see me tonight, hear me out. If you still don't want to know me after that, then so be it. Please, you're my heart and I'm dying without it.

8.53pm If you love me, please at least answer me my heart.

So I got my password off my friend a few hours after I got the voicemail, I read these out to my friend and I rung a counselling phoneline she said to write him a letter and say to leave me alone but the thing is - i'd be contacting him then and I can't do that!!! So I got my friend to ring him and tell him to not contact me anymore or I'll take it further (court order) he said that's a bit unnessecary isn't it?

He text me after she had made the call saying..

10.07pm Ironic how you have someone threaten me with police action for harrassment due to text messages, (no way, it was because you were outside my fuckin window you creep - obviously you are messed up cos you don't realise that's why!!) yet your numerous phone calls, texts and 2am visits seen in the same context. Thanks for having her call though, has certainly answered a few questions.(clearly meaning, cool going to add you to my huge my ex's are crazy list - but I am so ok with that!!!) Goodbye.

Wow what a rant, really needed to get that out.
He sucks, I have a test tomorrow and haven't had the mental capacity to study for it after ALL of this shit.

Comments? Concerns? Thoughts? Anyone been through something similar? On one of my phones all his texts are blocked completely. Kinda glad that I had them divert on my main line as then I did really realise how psycho he is and to act on that as otherwise I am sure I would have bumped into him as he lives down the road... and he would have made a scene then I reckon.... :(

Aug 8 - 6AM
tooloyal
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Stay strong. I think that if

Stay strong. I think that if you don't block him, it gives him hope. He will get over it.
Aug 8 - 6AM
Sparrow
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Take note of all the times he

Take note of all the times he used the word "I". Keep up the good work!
Aug 8 - 5AM
StudentOfLife
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My gut feeling on this when

My gut feeling on this when as i read your post... this guys is potentially very dangerous. Do be sure to record all those texts, make backups too.... go to the police with concern about the harrassment/stalking and the documentation. Start that paper trail!!
Aug 8 - 5AM
Hunter
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Welcome to Narcville!!! Are

Welcome to Narcville!!! Are you enjoy the"scrabbled Eggs"? Good job! Stay NC Hunter
Aug 8 - 2AM
Littleone
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Holy shit girl! I'm so sorry

Holy shit girl! I'm so sorry i didn't warn you about this. My ex did the same sort of thing in the beginning of our break up. Death threats. Showing up at my house and blocking off the driveway and revving the engine (he drives a crap car so it's kind of funny in hindsight). Throwing my property all over the front yard. They go extremely psycho when they get rejected. If you needed any further validation as to what he is- you got it. Tread very carefully, take care of your safety. Your dealing with a psychopath here who has lost control of his victim. The way I handled it was to get the police involved straight away. This scared him off somewhat. If you get any more creepy messages that he has been around your house call the police and update them with the situation. Start a paper trail right here. Save all of his texts in case you need them as evidence. Above all things, do not contact. The counsellors suggestion is not a bad idea, keep it simple - send him an email (so that you have a copy of it) saying something like this- Dear n, Thankyou for the time we spent together. I feel we are going in different directions and I would appreciate you not contacting me from this point. I wish you all the best for the future and hope you find happiness. And that Is your absolute FINAL contact. You block his email immediately after. If he violates your request you have more evidence to use against him. It's best not to antagonize him or trying to piss him off, this is a dangerous stage. He won't respect your request, they never do but it could serve you well if you need to take it further. You don't need to give any explanations at all. You owe him NOTHING. Stay strong girl, I'm proud of you Xox
Aug 8 - 2AM
indenial
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sounds exactly like my xn

Could be reading my own story there ! They are mad. Well done you for seeing it for what it is. My ex does this everytime he goes too far and realises he's exhausted all avenues. Its tiring. How many times do they really think they can do that! The proof of the pudding is in the eating ! We go back and its exactly the same if not worse ! Only we can stop it cos they never will for as long as we let them and they are not consumed with better supply.
Aug 8 - 2AM (Reply to #5)
driftingsister
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It's soooo awful!!! I am so

It's soooo awful!!! I am so glad I found out his "twin sister" isn't real. Really has helped me put everything into perspective, I mean I never believed it but thought that was too much of a lie to say. Awful awful stuff. Such hot and then cold texts ay? lol I like how he's like I'm going to ignore you too but then the following day sends heaps and calls. It's like they try to pull every emotion out of us to respond - hate, anger, love etc... hate it!!
Aug 8 - 3AM (Reply to #6)
indenial
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it is awful

Those hot and cold texts used to truly send me into a spin ! It changed in a second depending on whether my response was one he wanted ! The trouble is I could never tell what he wanted or how best to respond ! I've long since reached the point where I just show him indifference and react emotionless and matter of factly. Say it like it is. No flowering it up. He still doesn't get it though. That's a terrible lie to tell. They will do or say anything. I don't believe a word that comes out of his mouth even when I want to ! Unless I see it with my own eyes I don't believe it ! He lies about such stupid things ! Its all for attention or to manipulate you ! Its pathetic really. I long for the day when I can truly let go and feel my spirit soar again. I have glimpses. I know its coming. They are like spoilt children. Those messages you've quoted could have been written by my freak too !! LOL. That's all they deserve ridicule and laughter
Aug 8 - 2AM
58 and going strong
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DELETE!!!!!! NC!!!!!!! NO

DELETE!!!!!! NC!!!!!!! NO CONTACT! NONE!
Aug 8 - 2AM (Reply to #3)
driftingsister
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Yeah! no I haven't! that's

Yeah! no I haven't! that's why I got my friend to ring because if I did he knew he was winning his sick twisted game...
Aug 8 - 2AM
driftingsister
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Oh he also rung my other

Oh he also rung my other phone and left a voicemail saying "please dont ignore me i need to speak to you, dont block me out i never blocked you out whenyou went through shit" ughhh he makes me so sick!!!! the horrible thing is that, now I feel like I won't be able to tell the difference between a nice guy and a bad guy when I first meet someone !