Never Do Friends W/ Benefits

Seems to me any relationship with a PD personality whether they be male/female, intimate/platonic has NOTHING to do with being friends and EVERYTHING to do with benefits for them. Friends with benefits would never work for me as I am not wired to JUST have sex and why would someone who professes to be my friend want to JUST have sex with me anyway...I think the word FRIEND is used very lightly here and the emphasises is on the benefits for the user and not the empath. How every much you think you can cope with it I think it would became hard...like being a doormat.

My Narc had a whole so called gang, of people like that. They weren`t friends, like being honest and true to each other..when you wanted to count on someone, each was selfish and only considering his own interest..and at partyes, my God! Everyone was hooking with everybody, and the next day, some of them had real boyfriends/gf.. I found that incredibly disgusting and confusing..like f*ck buddies or something..I wanted to be only with N, not with that whole gang! A whole Narcland paradise out there you know. I didn`t wanted that. It was all fake, and as I was going to find out..just like Mr N.

My first post-N encounter was a FwB relationship and I really liked it! It was refreshing to has sex without baggage. I also felt safe because the relationship was completely defined up-front - no fear of anyone falling in love or wanting more. I called him my sex therapist! He showed me that there was nothing wrong with me and that I was perfectly capable of having normal intimate relationships and that sex can just be fun sometimes. I think I'm in the minority on this though. Suzie

My relationship with the N started out as friends with benenfits... It was all I really wanted... I am in a sexless marriage and I just wanted the sex.. But, he uped the anti when he found out that I had farmland... He started telling me that he loved me and that he wanted me to leave my husband... I even went to a divorce lawyer... Thank god, I started to see thru him before I got too far with the divorce thing... The hot and cold shit he kept doing made me take a step back and say something is wrong.. I did fall in love with him, I let my guard down... I wish he had just left it as friends with benefits... This may, once the corn was planted he became less interested and told me he would see me in November... My Narc has several married women that he courts at the same time... He doesn't want a commitment... He wants his cake and eat it too... But, with me it is different, he sees me as a cash cow... So, he wants more, but his DISORDER keeps him from maintaining a normal relationship.. Damn Jacknut!!!

good for you...i would never be friends with benifits either... it would be so demeaning to me to just have sex with someone....this is narcs all over...i spent more hours with narc than anyone else he has known, and people would say to him and me, how come you spend so much time togetherfrom 9am to 9pm nearly every day for months... then one day, i was chatting to a pal of his and said to him..me and narc are only PLATONIC FRIENDS...he said yeah everyone knows that cos if you had been intimate[i cleaned that up lol] he wouldnt still be with you all the time, you would just be a booty call after the pubs close...or the occasionally cuppa, with you always paying the bill.... so who the hell would want that...anyway friends with benifits,the only one who benifits are the men...no way...