Need some advice: How have you dealt with your anger?

I was "with" my N about a year and half. I use the word with very loosely, looking back it was never a relationship. I was nothing more than an object for him to control, use & abuse.
There was constant emotional, controlling abuse. Im angry at myself for allowing it for so long. The stress he put me through daily was unbearable. He wanted to control my every move. I panicked every day over what time I would get off work, knowing every day was a mad dash to run home, tend to my dogs, get to his place. If he had to wait, he would be angry.
There were incidents of physical abuse, but to be honest, that was the most bearable part of it all...
Months in, the sexual abuse began. Without giving details, there were things he was into that were degrading, uncomfortable and painful for me. He used to tell me the more painful for me, the more pleasurable for him. Towards the end there were a couple of incidents of physical/sexual abuse when i was forced to do things against my will. The last few weeks we were together, every time ended in one particular "position" he knew was painful for me.
One the upside, this diminished any remaining feelings I had for him. The thought of him absolutely disgusts me.
The main thing I am dealing with now is extreme anger towards him. Ive contacted my counselor for a referral to someone that specializes in sexual abuse so I can work through it.
I am realizing it is probably way to early, but I had began "seeing" a very nice man. Taking it very slow, but now feel even more anger towards my N because it has completely affected my ability to trust or allow myself to get close to anyone. At this point I cant even imagine wanting to kiss anyone or be intimate in any way.

I know therapy is a must for me, but just wondered if any of you had advice or feedback on how you dealt with the anger? I know staying busy is good, and I have better days, but also have days where I am angry and just want to be alone. Days I am so easily agitated by others. I work with people on a daily basis and it so hard at times to put on a happy face. I guess I am also looking for some words of encouragement to change my attitude/outlook about it? Ways to get through when those strong emotions hit. When I can I log into the forum & start reading away, but thats not always an option. I want so badly to start moving forward but feel like this anger has me at a standstill.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you