NC v. co-parenting a teen
NC v. co-parenting a teen
Whew, gang, I have been through the blender. After more than two months of very minimal contact, I agreed to see my Narc with a therapist to deal with issues of co-parenting our 15 year old daughter. this led to him being around more, and some more normal behavior on his part. However, the manipulation of me is so insidious and relentless I am exhausted and strung out. he will make comments about how much he liked something or how he is doing something I was asking him to do for months like investigate medications, while we were still together. or he will drop small references designed to make me think he is starting to come out of his most recent crazy fog of abuse, and then he'll turn and just shut me down if I respond to that in any friendly or hopeful way. he finally began acknowledging that he has been lying so much, he's out of control. in fact he said that lying and rationalizing everything he does is his own personal addiction, which seemed like a positive realization. next day it's as if we never talked and he'll say or do something so weird and perversely rationalized I really get worried about even letting him see our daughter. she takes all her cues from me. If I'm relaxed and ok, she'll see him and have fun. if he's been obnoxious or weird and I seem stressed, she won't even return his texts. I appreciate the loyalty but the pressure of managing this relationship while I try to heal from his betrayals and abuse is ripping my guts out.
Anybody have any insights or suggestions? I have a good therapist I'm seeing. just wondered from the front lines if anyone has landed on this problem in a productive way.
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