NC and co-parenting, it sucks!!!!!
NC and co-parenting, it sucks!!!!!
It is very hard to have NC when you have to co-parent and attend extra curricular activities with your kids. My ex NH moved 40 miles away from our small town because in his words "it's a dump". Funny, he's the one who chose that town initially, of course that was when he had no money and I was the one making the money. He moved be because he was screwing around with a woman in the other town. Our town is a small country town and is nice, not ritzy, but nice. His town, is small but the people there are all about status, and he built a big house in a ritzy subdivision even though he filed bankruptsy prior to this. Amazing how that happens. Anyway, it has been 4 years and I have never seen nor met the OW he left me for. She avoids me. SHe does not come to my kids activities which has been a blessing, I don't think I could handle seeing her in person. For the most part my ex has avoided talking about her when I'm around, until now. I didn't have a lot of friends after our split, most were his so I have really tried to start getting out and getting involved in Church, school volunteering etc. I have become more outgoing and really try to talk and visit with the parents at their activities. When my ex would go he would usually sit off to the side not saying much which was good but lately he has been coming over and sitting in the group and of course butting in on all the conversations. I am really starting to hate it because no matter what is said, he has done it or has a friend who has it, has a buddy who does this or that. It is annoying. The OW is a teacher and last night he was talking about her to someone sitting in the stands next to me. He mentioned how she was looking for a job and could not find one in their town so she may try and find one in my town. He also has been suddenly befriending all these people in my town, everyone is now his buddy even though he didn't know anyone before. I guess I feel angry because I want to move on and make friends and be able to enjoy an event without hearing about he and the OW or God forbid seeing her in my town. Everyone thinks he is great and he talks a good game in front of them all. I just take deep breaths and turn away but I feel by doing this I am letting him win. I noticed too that the parents have been asking him if he and the OW are going to festivals and dances in the surrounding small towns. Because he is a couple and so are they it seems thay always run into him everywhere. I want to make friends, get my outgoing self back but it seems he brings me down and these people have no idea what he did. Plus, some of the moms are teachers and know the OW from college and high school but they don't know about the affair. It just sucks on so many levels. Having kids with these people makes it soooooo hard.
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Klarity
Lets do it, nothing stopping us!
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
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I'm right there with you
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
there is a donations button
parenting
Thanks Barbara
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
I agree, we need to do
Thanks Sanctuary
Gullable
Good for you!!! These are
Co-parenting with an N isn't possible
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
Get your pen and paper!
* My name is Davy Jones *
Will Turner: You loved her. She's the one, then you cut your heart out...
Davy Jones: [tentacles bristling with rage] No... she PRETENDED to love me! SHE betrayed ME!
Will Turner: And after which betrayal did you cut
Love the way you write
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
Well thanks!
* My name is Davy Jones *
Will Turner: You loved her. She's the one, then you cut your heart out...
Davy Jones: [tentacles bristling with rage] No... she PRETENDED to love me! SHE betrayed ME!
Will Turner: And after which betrayal did you cut
Bleach Blonde will get D&D'd too
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
Misogyny
They don't deserve names!
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4
Emotional Voldemorts
It sucks ASS....BAD
* My name is Davy Jones *
Will Turner: You loved her. She's the one, then you cut your heart out...
Davy Jones: [tentacles bristling with rage] No... she PRETENDED to love me! SHE betrayed ME!
Will Turner: And after which betrayal did you cut
Parenting?
it sucks
I cannot believe how similar
hope4me
counseling
Others Have NO CLUE at all
* My name is Davy Jones *
Will Turner: You loved her. She's the one, then you cut your heart out...
Davy Jones: [tentacles bristling with rage] No... she PRETENDED to love me! SHE betrayed ME!
Will Turner: And after which betrayal did you cut
no clue