As narcville turns...an update on my ex...(please share your stories)
As narcville turns...an update on my ex...(please share your stories)
We talk a lot on here about narc behaviors…how predictable they are, and we see such uncanny similarities between our men/women. But, it’s somewhat surreal when you actually SEE all of it play out. Like our chats here…actually materialize, and you realize that we’re all not guessing or making assumptions about narcs, but it’s really predictable, what they do or don’t do.
Here’s what’s happened. As most here know, broke up with the ex going on 7 months now. I caved a few times against NC—in hopes of at least being friends. He would often bait me to call and I would, then he’d insult me. Hang up on me, etc. His premise for ‘’hoovering’’ me had more to do with revenge, than wanting me back. Then, I started dating. It was as if we were in competition. He then started dating and was quite vocal about it on a website we once both posted on together. Ok…so, he dated a girl, at the time, a few of our mutual ‘friends’ were telling me about her, but truly, I didn’t care. I have since removed all of them as ‘friends’ from my life. Fast forward to a few months ago, he breaks up with the girl. Friends tell me ‘she wasn’t you, dee.’ Guess that was their take on why he ended things with her. It was around this time, I changed my cell number, as I didn’t want to hear about him anymore. Ok. Fast forward to abut a month ago. He starts talking to one of my friends who I forgot I gave my home number to. Mind you, I stopped communicating with this ‘’friend.’’ She proceeds to leave me a voicemail and say that ex N has been texting me, and is irate that I’m not replying. (I changed my number, didn’t get the texts) I don’t reply to her. I’m 100% commited to NC at this point, and not waivering. Wait, he’s ‘irate?’ lol Someone needs to send that boy a memo…we broke up!
Ok. So…fast forward to last night. Guess what. He went back with the last gf. Lol ‘Old supply,’ as we say here. So, let’s see…he went for old old supply (me) and that didn’t work…so, he said to himself…I’ll tap back into the last chick. See where that leads.
And there you have it ladies and gents… a typical narc story.
Recap:
1) Break up with said narc
2) Narc hoovers and baits (not necessarily to get you back, but for revenge in my case)
3) You stop communicating
4) You cut off friends of the narc
5) You move on with your life
6) Narc circles back around, (most likely) shocked you’ve moved on with your life without him/her
7) Narc starts baiting again
8) Narc realizes the bait he threw out isn’t working
9) Narc goes back to supply who’ll take him back, or want him back
10) And they all DID NOT live happily ever after. Lol
Just thought I’d share. Interesting no?
Share a similar story, if you would? I’d be interested to see if my ex is as predictable as everyone else’s.
I also thought, that poor girl. If she only knew…if she only knew what he is. If she only knew he sat on a dating website the entire time he dated her. If she only knew what she was dealing with. If she only knew that basically he couldn’t get anyone else, and decided to go back to her. UGH. Can you imagine that feeling? Knowing someone is only with you, because they had no luck finding anyone else? :=(
Diedre
thanks for sharing this
Same guy different body.. It
hunter
Because we have a brain to
April 2010-Mr. N D&Ds me for
TNR1
From his profile pics on
Mine is covert & lazy as hell
GAgirl
Ok, here goes.. 15 years ago: