Narcs True Love = Triangles

As I enter my 3rd week of NC, I've had time to reflect and learn from my fellow Survivors/Thrivers. As this was my 4th and final time dancing with this she-devil, I am amazed how common the Triangle is for many of us. Creating and living in a world of triangles is NS on steroids.

Ms. Google is always searching for new mirrors to reflect her WannaB image. After meeting for our first date, she invited me to attend a local charity event where we "could hang out together and have fun." Well, what she failed to share was that she would split the evening between me and another "friend." Of course, being the confident person I was before meeting her, I was not threatened by her friend and just accepted her explanation. BIG MISTAKE!

Throughout the course of 2 on and off again years together, I can now clearly see at least 10 times where she placed me in situations with other men. Each time, it felt wrong and put a pit in my stomach that I couldn't understand. My body was telling me that something was wrong, but my head kept saying to relax, surely no one would bring mix a current "love" with a potential new "love.". Wrong, Wrong, Wrong!

N's LOVE triangles and the drama they create. The N in my life used them to keep me off balance so that she could use this cloud of uncertainty to keep her options always under development. I once came home from work to a surprise meeting of a work "friend." Another time, another "friend" just happened to show up at her son's school music concert. She even invited a former BF to join us for dinner once. They always want to keep their NS handy and even better to mix the actors in their play. The pain this experience has caused me is bad enough, but the thought of what these experiences are teaching her children breaks my heart. Lucky for me, I am healing, getting stronger every day and learning why I fell for her charms.