Narcs friends hate me

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#1 Oct 10 - 3AM
kollontai77
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Narcs friends hate me

I have been backsliding, checking the N's facebook page and feeling jealous that his life continues as if nothing had happened.

One of his long time friends had been most helpful in the aftermath, being really supportive of me when my mental state disintegrated after the One Mediocre Shag with N.

But I cut him off as I was wanting to get away from the N and his entire entourage. I also was noticing that his friend was backing away from me, not responding to messages, etc. I did the whole "nice knowing you" thing, a bit snarky, but I was really hurt.

A couple of months have passed, I've added back the N's friend's sister (she was ok), but when I friend requested the N's friend, he ignored me entirely.

I have been crying really hard, as it is hitting home that that entire chapter of my life is over, and I am hated not just by the Narc but by his friend as well.

I suppose I always hoped for some reconcilation of sorts, being cordial with N's friend and frostily superior to the N, getting back at him by being attractive and perfectly desirable but unattainable. Now, either I will see neither of them again, or if I do, they will probably be reminded of my hysterical insane outbursts via FB messages, and my stint in mental hospital. I can never be redeemed in their eyes again - I am just a crazy screw up, and inferior.

It is triggering all my bad feelings about my essential inferiority to others, my mental instability, intensity, social weirdness and isolation yet again. Not sure how to cope. at all.

Oct 10 - 7AM
neverlookback
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of course they hate`

Oct 10 - 7AM
Used
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KOLL

Oct 10 - 6AM
Emjbear
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Time for new

Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #15)
Deidre99
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I agree with this,

Oct 10 - 5AM
Deidre99
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My advice is to deactive your

Oct 10 - 5AM (Reply to #9)
kollontai77
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.

Oct 10 - 5AM (Reply to #10)
Deidre99
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You might not like what I'm

Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #11)
kollontai77
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'tis done

Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #13)
Emjbear
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Great!

Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #12)
Deidre99
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I'm so excited for you!!

Oct 10 - 5AM
Goldie
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The key phase here is "his friends."

Oct 10 - 5AM (Reply to #7)
Deidre99
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goldie

Oct 10 - 3AM
brinamarie
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koll, i'm pretty sure you

Oct 10 - 3AM
Used
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koll

Oct 10 - 6AM (Reply to #2)
Goldie
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USED EXCELLENT RESPONSE

Oct 10 - 7AM (Reply to #3)
Used
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GOLDIE

Oct 10 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
Snowflake
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Its horrible