narcs detects weakenss and attack... Pls help!

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#1 Apr 22 - 9AM
Qing Yuan
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narcs detects weakenss and attack... Pls help!

I was feelign bad yesterday. took more meds for the parasites. Made me feel weak and tired. I came home from work exhausted and flopped down on the bed. then he came in with my son and left. I had to get up amd make my son dinner. It was a challenge I felt so tired.
then today I go for a massage, which a kinf friend is doing cheap for me. he already clocked it and didnt like my 'enjoying' myself.
I came home even more tired. I asked him, (becasue usually he says he needs to work) "what are you doing today" he says workign later but think ill do somethign with our son'
I say 'oh great cos I need some sleep, I dont feel great'
....
Later.. we only drink bottled water, So I see that we have run out, so I ask him if he can get some when he goes to work, he says he doesnt know where form tat that time. I agree its too late on Good friday then, so i say... and the wording is important...
"maybe you could take 'son' to the park and pick some up''
He sits lookign irriated and then begind the attack.
Saying that I dont ask direct questions and that I should ask direct questions.
He says he hates the way I ask him things and refers the event earlier when I say 'what are you doign today' he says I should have askeddirectlyt if I could have had a sleep????
he says I should ask directly if 'he will go and get water'
FUCKING CONTROL FREAK...
Im usally strong and feelign good but in the weakest moment he finds something to attack me for.
the way I ask him to do something?
in the conversation he calls me stupid and then goes on to spit at me ' well your the one lyign around all day'
My god he smokes pot and gets himself stoned that he ends up fallign asleeep on the sofa, and I doesnt ask my permssion for it to be ok to have a sleep???
He doesnt have the money yet to get his own place.
its doign my head in.
I grovel around him, tip toeing and the moment he detechs weakness in my apprell he attackes with shit about the way I speak to him...
I hate him more than ever right now.\Yesterday I nearly texted him to beg him to change his mind about going but I refrained knwoing that its would be the wrong thing to do.
I am glad that I mamange that.
today his trued coloures shine.
and all beccasue I got a massage and took a nap...
What is with narcs.. they atre hippocrits and they are not happy unless thay are critiscing or attacking.

Apr 23 - 3AM
Scoop
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What is he still doing on

What is he still doing on youre sofa ?A couple of weeks ago he said he wanted to have a "more fulfilling relationship" and said that he was leaving you at 4 oclock in the morning and he is still there ? If he hasnt got the money for his own place that is tough shit get him out of there .. QY are you scared of this man ? it sounds like he completely dominates you , he has zero regards for youre feelings none , zilch nothing but he is still there stopping you form doing any healing .. there is always an excuse with him he is so "the cheques in the post " man . You have to get the strenght and i know you dont have any but you have to find it from somewhere and shut the door on this narc otherwise he will kill you . We all know where you are at , i have been there too and somewhere you dig as deep as you ever have and say NO .. It gets easyer once you have said it once and ment it . xx