Narcs and there stupid conditional love
Narcs and there stupid conditional love
I tell him that asking for me to shave my legs and work in a job that he chooses for me is wrong and anyway its conditional love. He says that I put conditions on his love. I ask what they are and he says that ‘you want me to be interested in your stuff, your work or your essays and stuff’ I am gob snacked… and I say, ‘ you know what yes, If that is a condition of my future relationships, then yea I would want my partner to take some honest moderate level of interest in me and my work, AND I am sure that this sort of respectful normal thing should be given in any relationship on a mental emotional level. Why would you be with someone who you weren't interested in that way???? Lord knows???
I wonder why I am not telling him the conditions my love?
‘Like I only see a future for us if you can stop being a asshole’
He says, ‘you have noticed haven’t you, haven’t I been kinder and nicer to you’ and wants to know what have I done for him in return… OMG. Can you believe this person.. That in thankfulness of his being a BIT kinder and nicer, I am too start to show my gratefulness?! … My god you ignorant person, that’s supposed to be a given, being kind and nice to your partner, not something done for down payment on the returns given. Being kind isn’t a sacrifice??? It is to him…
I am thinking what the hell can I do to get away form this man when we have got the situation with raising our dear little boy. I know that my boy is going to get abused at some point if I am now. What will he say is not ‘satisfying his needs’ about his son. What insecurities and irrational criticisms will he project on him? I am fearful and dead inside. I am not good enough for him apparently and then after wards I receive a barrage of texts that tell me I am beautiful and he loves me…
He doesn’t know what authentic love is.
I am yet again in a state of trauma.
I honestly don't think my therapist can see how bad this is.
She has told me that I need to 'choose to react' in way that does not allow him to damage me but just saying 'No' but I do try for while to be calm, strong and guarded but he always manages to find a way in. I want NO contact... I am not making the appropriate steps and just getting sicker. I sound like a victim and I just don't know myself anymore.
I wish we all have to never see or hear or 'feel' the dark energy of these losers around us ever again. More children are reared by Narcs, more people damaged by them and end up like em;. It is in the veins of the very corporations that modern life is built upon. I hate this shit. I feel that I will either die, I feel so ill, or I will get out... I am not sure which today...
Thanks for your words of strength.
yesterday on Dr. Phil there
Dr. Phil
Like I only see a future for us if you can stop being a asshole
Like I only see a future for us if you can stop being a asshole
Just reread your story
Don't you know that Narcs
Breadcrumbs
YES - GET OUT!!!
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