NARCS AND MONEY!!

The first time I tried to leave exnarc I asked him to move out. He slowly began taking his things over a weeks time. The entire week I avoided my home, so I wouldn't have to see him to fall into his manipulative trap again. In the meantime while he had free reign of what was once our home that he was leaving he hid and stole a lot of things. My favorite bikini that I spent LOTS of money on I thought he had stolen. Found out one day when i decided to rearrange the house that he had simply thrown it behind the dresser. He took my ID and still to this day will not admit to it. The week that I avoided my house he found my car, and used a key to it I didn't know he had to get into it. He stole my laptop chord right out of my car. Later confessing saying that he was just so mad at me for leaving him. SOO many things he stole. SOO much money he got from me

My first xnh cleaned out my entire savings account for his own benefit. I didn't find out until I went to buy a nice television set for us because our other one died, and he had taken all but the $5 holding the account open. I had worked all the way through high school saving this money. When we divorced, I actually had this written into the settlement and the courts made him pay it all back. Also, my clothing/personal possessions that he didn't like for some reason would just "disappear". I found out later, that he was either selling my stuff or throwing it into the dumpster. I came home from work one day to find that he'd sold all of MY record albums. Not his, just mine. He said he needed the money. I was furious. This is a person that would NOT work. He went to school, and seemed to think he was above contributing to his own education. Selling my personal stuff was NOT a good solution (according to me). My second xnh (yes, I'm apparently a slow learner) didn't outright steal my stuff or my money, and he did have a job. He was more covert than the first xnh. His tactic was to always be too broke to do anything, and "if I could just FLOAT him he'd pay me back". Yeah, right. He'd then promptly forget that he owed what he'd borrow, and it was like pulling teeth to get it back. We'd do things like go to the city shopping for HIS kid's school stuff, and we'd be planning to go the movies or out to a nice restaurant. Xnh would realize that he'd "forgotten" his wallet when we were 100 miles from home. I got so that I would "forget" my purse, too. That way, he had to look like the jerk that he really is in front of his own kids when we had to go back home. Like yours, my second xnh used to accuse me of screwing other guys and having affairs. Boy, was THAT pure projection! He was the one that was cheating on me and wildly into online porn.

Although he didn't seem too happy that I was better off than he was. I think he wanted to manipulate that to gain from it.

The day I knew my marriage was over was the day we were served foreclosure papers for our home. Come to find out (after he assured me it was the bank's mistake, and not to worry my pretty little head) that not only was the house going to be taken away, but the cars, the utilities cut off, and the kids' college funds were wiped clean, as well as my retirement and all savings. He racked up $50k in cc debt, cashed out life insurance policies, and did it all under the guise of 'providing for his family'. Except the kids and I never saw a dime...but we did see a constant stream of new clothes, new guitars, concerts (for him and his friends), and a fancy car.

of things he thought were related to my ex-husband. I'd come home from work and he'd show me something he destroyed to 'help me.' He did this often and unbeknownst to me until the things were already destroyed. He burned them. This was what led up to the freeze-out that eventually prompted the D & D. He destroyed some things in my lean-to that I treasured and paid for under the guise of 'helping me' with the woodpile. It was blatant and not helpful. It was such an in-your-face-I'm-entitled-you-have-no-boundaries that I couldn't keep quiet about it. When I stood up for myself and conveyed my great displeasure with what he did, he bolted. Froze me out. Final D & D disappearance ten days later. While I was visiting my ill father I'd come back to an empty freezer and fridge. Sometimes when he'd leave at night he'd swipe a bottle of champagne that I would buy for the weekend without asking or telling me. Finally I said something to him about it and every now and then when he'd take it he'd leave a few bucks on the counter. He felt entitled to everything in my home. He violated all my boundaries regardless of my calling him out on it. He kept doing it because he could. He never listened to what I wanted. It didn't matter. He knew best, of course. This freak of nature had no job, sponged off his parents (in his late 40s!!!!), had a zillion different careers in which he lost because the rules never applied to him, etc. Ugh. Of course by the time I saw what I was dealing with I was entrenched in the CD, brainwashing and chasing of the illusion and was miserable. I must remind myself of this OFTEN. Sincerely (trying to stop) spinning

cheapest POS on the face of the earth, but he never actually STOLE from me point blank. However, I was shocked to find that he was taking money--literally checks--from one of the OW because he told her he was broke. He has millions and millions of dollars, his parents were filthy rich, his grandparents owned oil wells during the Depression. He has a four story brand new house all paid for, many other properties he's making income from, and he makes twleve thousand dollars a MONTH with his judgship. He also gets 1200 a month from the state to support his foster kid, none of which he even uses because the kid is given everything by the other women, family and friends, fed every night by friends and babysitters who take them out or invite them over, and he goes to school for free and has a free Medicaid card for all his health care. He somehow convinced the OW to write him two checks a month--one for him and one for the kid--to give him money to furnish his entire house that she never set foot in, and to give him a three thousand dollar flat screen t.v. for his birthday. When I told her he already HAD a flat screen t.v. --in fact, one in every single room of the house, including all four bathrooms--she was totally speechless. He told her he was poor so she flew from California to Chicago twice a month on her own dime and put them all up in a ritzy hotel downtown because he said he was "ashamed" of his own place. Unbelieveable. I encouraged the OW to report him to his boss and to child protective services for stealing from her but she hung up on me. Of course.

He ripped my clothes if they took to long to dry. He never called me sluty or anything but he called me plenty other things. Has he stolen from me? YES! Non-stop, and he stole from my kids.

..and yet was the cheapest guy I have ever dated. He constantly suggested I should buy dinner more, when I paid for numerous dinners. I paid for my own airline ticket to Europe to visit HIS family, $1600. I paid for half our ski vacation. I treated him to a great birthday dinner and gift, $400.. he did nothing for me (he was traveling, how convenient). I bought him at $350 Xmas gift.. he got me nothing, he wasnt good at buying gifts. Instead he walked me around Tiffanys and ordered me to pick out something, but everything was too expensive. He had a $60k sportscar but insisted I drive him everywhere. I would fill his refrigerator with food so when he would arrive home from a biz trip he wouldnt have to shop.. he barely noticed or appreciated. Seriously.. cheap.

Mine complained when I asked for 500 a month when he moved in after he proposed. That was to cover everything and it was to help him save some money and pay down his bills so we could have a life. He didn't think that was fair. Now...I own, all by myself, a over 300k home, at that time a luxury car, I received no child support from my kids father. I do well for myself. He made half of what I made for being a teacher for 9 yrs. He thought he should pay the increased amount. So, if electricty usually runs me 150 and it goes up to 160, he pays the 10. What he didn't get is, food was the big amount. He ate a lot! When he moved in the last time for 6 months, he quit teaching (and did when he got married to a girl he dated for 6 months) and I supported him 100%. I lent him 5,000. He cashed in his 401k and paid me back but, only gave me 500.00 extra for those 6 months for my trouble. And because of his porn addiction, my computer got nasty viruses and I pretty much had to buy a new one after he left. He would complain he paid more during our outings, eating out, etc. I printed out everything I paid for a month and put it out on the counter. He got pissed and was raging that I was not communicating properly and leaving an itemized list out is not proper. WTF? I had proof, that is what pissed him off. I wonder how he is doing now with his childbride that makes 3 times less than me and I heard that he was out of work for a while too. But, they moved into a bigger place and more rent. So, maybe he found work again. But, for sure, he is living off of her child support she receives for her girls. He wants a pop-up camper and stuff but, never had the money to do anything. If he can sponge off of someone, he does with no guilt.

Don't get me started as Helldweller would say. If supply, manipulation, cheating, control, and general sleezy behavior are their mother ship; money issues, anger, and materialism is their and our demise. My X cleaned me out financially and destroyed my house due to these traits and it is detailed in my story. He is currently residing in the house of correction for his over the top out of control bad behavior in all of these area's you mention. Run don't walk as far away from this type of PD (and all PD; this type though, will take you down fast and leave you with nothing) and don't look back or you will be left in a fallout shelter with an overdrawn back account and the destructive behavior often escalates to physical violence. So glad you got out. G

They get you so caught up and enmeshed, and they do horrendous things at the WORST times you can't get out, it is like they corner you, destroy, horrid. Yes, if we could get out sooner, that would help,...difficult when they trap,,,and guess what,,they KNOW THEY TRAP you... They do this ALL the time. What losers...yes LOSERS.... Cruel, ugly, not attractive losers

It is horrendus, awful, they get way out of control quick, they damage you in no time, they will spend on you to get you, yet devastate you before your eyes and you don't know it . What is worse, after dealing with these types, and beginning to see clarity, is that you see more and more people who are out for revenge or YOUR MONEY and they screw you over...and you begin to see people doing it in front of you real time. Yes, they will destroy you, your belongings, take from you,,it is called their "trophies" they do crazy shit, it boosts them up to put you down, and see you suffer. They are also PROJECTING onto you,,what if you were to DO THAT TO THEM!!! Horrible, horrible ,,,,it is very difficult to get away when you are IN THE TRAP!!!! YUCK!!!!! disgusted!!!!!

The ex-Psych professor was more into $$$ and power than the usual Narcs here. One poster here said her Narc was stuck on "food and sex"--considering I didn't provide either for the ex-P, it ended up being about $$$. -My freshman year, after my grandfather died, he'd be asking me how much I inherited. I don't know how much I inherited, but I know it was none of his business. He'd say that he'd dump me for an heiress, because Prince Nicolai in "War and Peace" cruelly dumps his childhood sweetheart the orphan Sonya and marries Princess Marya so he can pay off his debts. -Saying he wished he could sue me (this was after my grandfather died) because he had made 14 copies of his lecture and gave them away for free to students. He claimed I was "stealing" from him. He was also mad that I read his "Wittgenstein, Tolstoy and the Meaning of Life" for free on the Internet. -Claimed I was copying his lecture, selling it, and mocking it. It was his paranoid imagination. -He'd say that since my parents were paying tuition, he was being paid to be my friend. He'd compare himself to a prostitute. -He'd berate me for volunteering, because I wasn't being paid. -Always complaining about how little he was paid as a professor. -He thought it was awesome that his idol, Leo Tolstoy, was arguing over $$$ with his wife Sofia in his final days. He thought it was great that Leo Tolstoy's widow and many children were dependent on the Czar's pension because Leo had left them penniless&poor. -The ex-P D&D'd me for a curator. She had $$$, unlike me. He got a house with her (he had been renting an apartment) Money was the ex-P's favorite topic.

I had a dress that I thought looked really good on me. He made a point of saying how he hated that dress. Well when we reconnected 15 years later I ask what he remembered about me. He recalled the dress and how much he liked it. The very same dress he told me he hated. When I called him out on it he said I hated it because everyone else liked it. One time he took my car and refused to give it back until he was good and ready. I got hair extension once just for fun and he tried to take them out of my head.

Yes he did. By the end of the relationship my NH stole from me. And he work 2 full time jobs. WTF???? I paid for our summer vacation then we decided that we only need one room instead of two so we let another couple buy the other room from us. Well when the couple gave my NH the money for the room he spent it and never said a word. 500 dollars. I found out the day we were leaving for vacation. When he left he stole 3,000 dollars by tricking me. But He will get his one day. (karma). My NH loves money but he is always broke! bank overdrafts are still coming to my house for him every week.

Changed the locks on the house I co-owned. Would not let me get my possessions. When I got there, everything rifled & moved, things broken--he had to pack because be was torotured by my possessions which I refused to move. Which he refused to let me move. Had his new woman in the house I owned open the door for me because I was locked out. Well, same thing happened to her. But she had valuable antiques which were really damaged. & this N -- he had money. Education. Well-employed. But still used women to subsidize his life-style. Ns are notoriously money grubber, after everybody else's money & possessions. What your's is theirs & you have not right to even ask for one of their crumbs which will be thrown out-- all their's. They are little kids screaming MINE!

mine use to make fun of my wearing white underpants and when i wore some colored ones,he pulled on them sadistically.. He always liked me for my money even more than me, except foe the sex, and once said "he never loved me he just wanted us to get a house together,so he could to drive me off a cliff and get the house."that is true love from a nutcase...............I called him on it and he got flustered and said he was just joking, that is when I should have left him for good, but no i loved him and stuck around for many more years after that comment.so be it..............he called me slut and whore so many times, all stems from their low image and lack of respect towards women, blame their mothers or whomever parented them!!!