Narcs and long term friends

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#1 Jan 9 - 8PM
anonymous1
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Narcs and long term friends

There was a 10 yr gap between my Narc and I's two tries at romance, and I was just trying to think of how many long term friends she has, because she does have a few.

Just seeing if this sounds familiar to you;

1) Mother, a paranoid schizo with 4 daughters from 4 men. The mom waits on the N hand and foot, until she drives the N crazy and they have a huge fight and she leaves for 9 months. To her credit, of the 4 girls, the N is the only one who still talks to the mother.

2) Sisters. Little to no contact, or extremely contentious contact.

3) Brother. Probably a bit of a narc himself, but a different kind. He visits and they see each other about 2 weeks per yr, sometimes it ends in a big fight, sometimes not.

4) Guy friends. There are two long-term guy friends. One is a former employer who is kind of a business advisor. They have good conversations about once a month. Actually very normal and healthy. The other guy friend calls about once a month to talk about his girl problems, also pretty healthy and normal.

5) Girl friends. One friend from grade school, they used to talk all the time 10 yrs ago, this time I only heard them speak once in 1 yr, probably because the friend has 3 kids of her own...

6) Ex's... One ex still sends at least $500 in gifts per month. Her baby's father and her are complete NC.

Almost all of her friends are new, within the last 18 months or so.

I understand why an N would not have a lot of long lasting friendships, but why would they have a few normal, long lasting friendships in there? How/why do they manage that?

Jan 10 - 8AM
TruthbeginsToday
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THEY hide motive very well .

Jan 10 - 10AM (Reply to #6)
anonymous1
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Thank you

Jan 10 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
TruthbeginsToday
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anonymous1 perhaps?

Jan 10 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Abigail
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Thank you, TruthbeginsToday

Jan 10 - 10AM (Reply to #5)
TruthbeginsToday
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Yes Abigail! the conditioning and beliefs that set us up

Jan 9 - 10PM
thebigpayback
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who knows why and what they

Jul 23 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
Niels
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I have read a lot in here