Narcissists & their Families

Hi all,
Just wanted some others’ thoughts / opinions on this:

My N had moved back in with his parents after being on his own for several years and seemed to have a tumultuous, love/hate relationship with them. His father was an alcoholic, and his mother always seemed weird to me. His parents never seemed to like him very much, and he always acted disrespectful of them, yet also strangely enmeshed with them (he would text his mother during our dates, and would come running at her beck and call even if we already had plans of our own).

Whenever I pressed him for more information on why he seemed so hateful towards his parents (he was always calling them dumb or incompetent, and said he hated his father), he would never really answer, and would change the subject. It was obvious he was hiding something. I don’t know this for a fact, but I strongly believe his alcoholic father may have abused him as a child. I know that on several occasions he was kicked out of the house or threatened to be kicked out of the house (I could never discern the reason why) and, according to my N, they “forced” him into therapy sessions which were always on and off and never seemed to last for any length of time. I don’t know if they knew he actually had a PD or not, as I didn’t know myself until after our break up.

While we were dating he had several opportunities to move out of their house and into apartments with roommates, but there always ended up being some reason or excuse why it didn’t work out for him. Yet, he always said how much he hated living with his parents. If their parent/child relationship was so horrible, why wouldn’t he want to get out of there ASAP?

Does this seem like a typical narcissistic relationship between parents and their disordered child? Is the relationship usually so hateful? Can parents stand their narcissistic children? Do they usually know something is wrong with them? Do narcissists hate their parents?

Thoughts?