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#1 Jan 30 - 9AM
JustBreathe
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Narcissists and Their Dogs..

What is it with narcs and their dogs? Looking back, I can see how almost everything in our relationship was a sham just to give him an advantage somehow...

But...he was crazy about his dogs, and I think that affection was real.

I've seen it mentioned here several times that other narcs are crazy about their dogs too...why is that? Is it the unconditional love that they crave, but have never received in their lives from a person?

Just wondering...probably neither here nor there in our recovery process. :-)

Jan 30 - 10AM
Sparrow
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Dogs love unconditionally,

Dogs love unconditionally, they never talk back, they never judge, and they don't have the ability to unmask the narc. Perfect companion and perfect constant supply.
Jan 30 - 10AM
saphire1
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When my ex n finally moved

When my ex n finally moved out he wanted me to send my dog to h im. I have a pug named max and I told him there was no was he was getting my dog. He always said my dog liked him more and you guys are right its the attention he was getting. Crazy!
Jan 30 - 9AM
Phoenix72
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That's funny! My exN was

That's funny! My exN was psychotic about MY dog!! He even made comments many times about how if we ever really ended our relationship that he wanted visitation rights to my dog! Really??? I had the dog long before he ever came into my life and he never once contributed financially to my dog. And he would pout when my dog would jump on the couch with me instead of jumping on the couch with him. And he was always making stupid comments of how my dog always had to be around me and follow me around. Jealous???? I know so! Well, we are not together anymore and do you think he's even made a comment about the visitation?? Nope..haven't heard from him! HAHA LOSER!
Jan 30 - 9AM
midnight7
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N's cannot feel any real

N's cannot feel any real emotions - they are not capable. But a dog is definitely good supply and how the N would like everyone in his life to be; doing exactly as he says whenever he commands it, focusing completely on him 24/7, never answering back, slobbering all over him, walking to heel, coming back for more when chastised - you can see why they like dogs! The xN had a dog, which he seemed to be very attached to, but after it died, and as he aged further, he said he couldn't be bothered with another dog, he could barely be bothered with people (his primary supply had dwindled significantly since retirement). For the N in old age it seems every living creature becomes a burden - always conspiring to take the attention away from the star attraction - him.
Jan 30 - 9AM
Hunter
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They can CONTROL dogs.. They

They can CONTROL dogs.. They get off on it.. Hunter
Jan 30 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
heritage
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Hunter, I have a little

Hunter, I have a little bichon who loves people! Howev er, when she was over N's she clung to me. He would try to get my dog to stay downstairs with him while I went up, but she wouldn't. He would taunt her for hours also. He would keep walking behind her in circles around the coffee table. Very bizarre. With other people she is so friendly, could care less if I'm in the room. He never pet her either. She was never at ease with him, and this breed is not like that at all.
Jan 30 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
JustBreathe
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Oh...that totally makes

Oh...that totally makes sense...
Jan 30 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
Hunter
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Have you read Lisa's

Have you read Lisa's book? There is section that covers this topic.. Hunter
Jan 30 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
JustBreathe
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I haven't finished it yet. I

I haven't finished it yet. I guess I should read first and ask questions later! Thanks! :-)
Jan 30 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
Marlinmom
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dogs know

My little pug used to be very close to my N but when he went on his last rampage with the OW before he left, she definitely picked up on it. we went on a picnic to the beach with the dog and N 'punished' me the entire time, being pouty and sullen and refusing to enjoy the afternoon. the dog literally sat as far away from us as she could, and pointed her back to him. it was the weirdest thing. after that she wouldn't look at him and when he visits, she hangs back. i can see it drives him nuts, which is so enjoyable to watch.
Jan 30 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
Phoenix72
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That is weird! My dog used

That is weird! My dog used to love cuddling with the exN! But after many times of him mistreating me in front my dog, my dog wouldn't go around him, he just hung right next to me whenever the exN was around! lol It was frustrating for the exN but enjoyable for me to watch! hahahaha