Narcissistic Talk

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#1 Dec 28 - 4PM
malloryforest
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Narcissistic Talk

We all know that pathologicals make no logical sense, talk gibberish, and are nonsensical. Here are some of my favorites from this past weekend....

1. I want to move to Chicago to be closer to the kids and to you, I am also working with a head hunter in the UK and would love to work in London.

2. i have not read the custody papers, but I don't like the part where you state that my gf can not travel with me to Chicago and be a part of the visitations.

3. I don't want the divorce, but I can't tell my girlfriend I am unhappy because I can't live alone.

4. I am horribly unhappy with my girlfriend and my life. I feel like I have made myself a horrible bed, yet I can't ask her to leave because I need someone to take care of the house, take care of the animals. If I have to be alone for even one day I will die.

5. Please don't force me to sign the custody papers. Once I sell the house, and get a job, I can walk away from this other life and make more proactive decisions.

6. I still love you and want the chance to see if our marriage can work, but you have to be empathetic to me and my other life. ( I have always loved this one, and it now makes me shake my head and chuckle.)

7. My girlfriend might contact you. Please don't tell her anything I have told you. Please respect my confessions to you.

I did not respond to any of these comments throughout the weekend. Did not show any anger, or anything. The only response I finally had was that the lawyer would be contacting him to sign the custody papers as soon as possible.

I have blocked his gf from all forms of communication. There is no way she can contact me. He is sicker and sicker by the day, she is obviously going through her own personal hell, and the children and I are almost free.

Dec 29 - 3AM
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mallory

I can tell the only way this "man" has survived as long as he has is because people have taken care of him. When you were with him, you took on all of his burdens. I am so glad you are almost free. Keep NC and he will eventually get bored. What kind of person stuffs his crotch with a gift for a child and makes him find it there? What kind of person can't take care of his own animals? What kind of person thinks you can't see through his nonsense? What kind of idiot buys rubber roaches as a christmas gift for his children? I'm glad you see he is not a person. I'm also very glad you're lawyer thinks he is sick. This is incredible.. You will be so unbelievably strong at the end of this - you have already shown unfathomable strength and integrity. Your H wishes he could be like you. His sickness is spiraling out of control. meanwhile, you maintain beautiful, amazing control. He is rotting slowly away. Someday, he will be but a distant memory....... http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview nolongercontrolled
Dec 28 - 5PM
quietude (not verified)
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mallory

OMG, what a total imbecile!!! You just can't make this stuff up...
Dec 28 - 6PM (Reply to #7)
malloryforest
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No you can't

No, you can't make this stuff up. What amazes me is how they truly believe their reasoning. In some ways, I would love to be a fly on the wall to hear all the crazy stuff he says to his girlfriend. in other ways, I have more important things to do.
Dec 28 - 5PM
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Holiday Fallout

I just got back yesterday from my trip to Chicago and the kids are back from the N's after being with him for over a week. Wow, they were so crazy. Things are starting to calm down, but I have had to do A LOT of damage control. I feel bad for them, but it is interesting to note that the N has not changed AT ALL. If anything, he is worse. He has been promising my son a new bike since last summer. The N did something (sold it) with my son's old bike. My son kept asking about it and he told him it was "in the shop". He took my son to look at bikes 2 or 3 times in the past few months, even had him pick one out--a very expensive mountain bike. He told my son that, "maybe your mom can go in 1/2 with me" but of course never contacted me or made any arrangements. The N also bought himself a new mountain bike a couple of months ago, what a jerk. He also promised my son that he would take him on a ski trip over Christmas or on Spring Break, then went skiing over Thanksgiving. I think he mooched this trip off of the babysitter. She is now babysitting another family's kids and I think that they paid for her to go to watch their kids on the trip and the N tagged along and mooched whatever he could. Sounds familiar, we did this when we were 19! He is 42! Babysitter is 24! Ewwwww! He didn't get our 3 kids presents except for framed pictures of them with him. He took them to his Mom's and let her give them a bunch of crap presents. Unbelievable!! He is so selfish, I can't believe it! They kids also told me that he is moving AGAIN, only this time into one of our friend's very cool houses. Our friend is moving to be closer to his kids, and wants to use his house on football weekends, so the N will live there with a roommate and rent a room to one of his AA friends. This makes me mad because he doesn't deserve to live in a nice house that someone else has worked his a## off to buy and maintain. He is completely sponging off of this guy. It is really amazing how well he avoids acting like a grown up. This is the 7th time he has moved in the last 2 1/2 years! Thank God I have custody, because it is so confusing for the kids. Some things never change, do they
Dec 28 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
malloryforest
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Dcrutche

They give the best presents. Mine brought my 4 1/2 year old a 12 month calendar and a ball that he had stuffed in his crotch for our son to find. Cute. He sent a box of stuff out for the kids to open. The baby is 1 1/2 years old. The box included 2 packets of rubber roaches, 2 cans of slime that make fart noises when you push your hands into it, a Whoopee cushon, rubber worms you can stretch, a magic book for 8 years old and up, a star wars book for 8 and up, two star wars videos, and a stuffed dog that when you push it's belly it farts. Lovely. Do any of you see one picture for his 1 1/2 year old daughter?? No you don't, unless the plastic roaches were for her.
Dec 28 - 8PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory

mallory - I hope you show ALLLL those presents to the therapist, the lawyer and the psychologist.... and what did your lawyer say about all those statements? They are such OBVIOUS LIES and soooo full of SHIT! He'll continue to get crazier the more you enforce ZERO CONTACT. ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 28 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
malloryforest
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Barbara

The lawyer thinks he is the sickest man she has ever had to deal with. Of course they are all lies. Every time he breathes he is lying. He lies to me, the kids, the girlfriend, to everyone. I don't think he knows how to tell the truth. I have been doing very well with NC. He won't sign the custody papers. He has no intentions of signing the papers. For whatever reason, he wants this divorce to continue dragging on and on. I want this divorce over so badly. Do you think he would really move to my town? He hates it here, my whole family hates him, and he is not going to be in the financial position to purchase more than one place to live. Hope he takes a job in London.
Dec 28 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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mallory - STBXNPH the PSYCHOPATH

He won't move there... just dangling it because he's so f-d in the head he can't believe you aren't still panting away for him. I'd bet there IS no job in London. He wants to have you BEG for him to STAY CLOSE TO THE CHILDREN... gag gag he won't sign - that's giving up CONTROL - so your lawyer will have to file a CONTEMPT ORDER if he doesn't sign by a certain time and slam his sorry but in jail... they have NO CLUE how to tell the truth - they are THAT sick... they don't know WHAT REALITY IS - they are NOT HUMAN. I wrote this the other day: http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2009/12/16/the-hidden-life-where-pathology-festers/ has your attorney read SPLITTING? She might want to attend one of Eddy's HIGH CONFLICT DIVORCE teleconferences: http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/ ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website