Is this Narcissist behavior? Help!!

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#1 Feb 14 - 4PM
ggbabi45
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Is this Narcissist behavior? Help!!

First off- he had a girlfriend when I first met him and he asked me out but they were rocky-BIG RED FLAG!!- He courted me with gifts, vacations away and sweet nothings for the first month. Then -Instant relationship!! One night, we were out drinking and we got back to his place where he called me the C-word and the next day apologized all day because he was "drunk." He also was talking about threesomes with me and one of his employees!! EEkkk gross..when I questioned him he told me don't worry that's not what I want..I ignored it...He told me he wanted to "take care of me" and made me dinner at his place all the time and it was very romantic! Gorgeous, successful and the life of the party-everybody loves this man and wants to be with him!! I felt so lucky! He would "joke around" and call me a bitch, whore,slut. i would get upset and he would say "just love me. Don't be mad." He was always very affectionate and loving when we would be laying in bed. At times, in the morning though he would get up fast and leave then call me and say "Did I give you a kiss when I left?" as if I wasn't important enough to make sure he did. He had many good ways such as being very generous and asking if I needed him to pick me up dinner while I was studying or if I needed a back massage..I will say that I did bitch at him a lot about certain things but I feel that they were logical. He grabbed one of his employees breast one day- when I got upset he said."That's my personality and if you can't handle it we shouldn't be together!! That's when he started to devalue me...I could see the texts and calls were less and he was going to the strip club getting lap dances and not telling me until after...The impotence was getting worse and I felt soo unattractive!! I keep blaming myself but then think of all the nasty things he said and realize it was him. He would say "If you loved me you would have a threesome with me." Very manipulative......Does he sound like a Narc or just an asshole????

Feb 14 - 6PM
Im_always_fine
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He's a PIG. I think he's more

He's a PIG. I think he's more sex addict then narcissist. He'll give you anything if you'll DO anything. He's not looking for a girlfriend but a partner in crime...it's easier for man to "get with" orgies and couples if he's with a woman. Do you really just want be a prop in his sport sex?
Feb 14 - 5PM
Emma
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Both!...

Both!...
Feb 14 - 5PM
Hunter
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Ummm.. Please re read

Ummm.. Please re read this! Is he a narc?? Does it matter? He's revolting.. Let's tak this a step further .. Can you say PSYCHOPATH? Honey Run.. Hunter
Feb 14 - 5PM
Kukla
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Behavior

Sounds like a grade A psychopath to me. Mine had a GF (now wife) while carrying on with me. He too, would routinely call me a Nasty C**T like it was my nickname and in the same breath tell me how much he cared and didn't want to hurt me. The perverted and sexual demands were deplorable and it got to the point he wanted me hyper sexual all the time. I am the farthest thing from being promiscuous and yet being involved with him made me feel cheap and unloved. I couldn't take his bizzare behavior or his lack of empathy or remorse so I pulled the plug and went NC. I'm still suffering from the emotional trauma that man put me through and yet every I feel that much better for running the other direction. I have never felt so used up as when I was with a PD.
Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
ggbabi45
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The funny thing is- he really

The funny thing is- he really seemed to have empathy and feel for others. We were still in the honeymoon phase and since I was very attracted to him I didn't mind being physical with him at anytime, but he said since I wouldn't have a threesome it wouldn't turn him on to have sex with me anymore and it was difficult for him to get an erection and keep it. There was alcohol involved usually on the weekends because of the business he owns and I thought that maybe I had turned him off because I was drinking every weekend but so was he! I am still struggling with my self esteem thinking that he really thought I was a slut and maybe I was acting like one because I always wanted to sleep with him but he WAS my boyfriend so hellooo! lol it was only with him I was like that...since I was in school all week I didn't see him much. A few times I think he thought I was cheating on him because I was skeptical at times to show him affection or love because I had built a wall due to the things he had said to me. I was very confused and by the end I ended up becoming jealous and insecure. He told me I was not showing him enough love and he needed more from me....NO what he needed was a swift kick in the ass with the steel toe boots that I walked away in!!!!
Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
Kukla
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Empathy

He's not empathetic to others. He is acting. He gets whatever he wants out of people and needs to put on an "act". Read this: http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/psychopaths-as-lovers/
Feb 14 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
ggbabi45
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OMG- I just got sick reading

OMG- I just got sick reading this and realizing I was with such a mental person. I always thought that psychopaths were people that went around murdering-but i now know that is not the case and they can hide their illness...He sure hides it well...giving to charity and all the beautiful things he bought me because he loved "seeing me smile." I will have my radar up for these bastards going forward ...Thank You
Feb 14 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
ggbabi45
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@ Hunter- I did re read and I

@ Hunter- I did re read and I laughed all the way til the end hahaha.... But these SOB's get into your head so much that you actually take the beginning and think of all the caring, sweet things they have done and put aside the BS...I am out for four months now but it still bothers me for some stupid reason....