Narcissist Appeasers

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#1 Apr 18 - 11PM
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Narcissist Appeasers

by Kathy Krajco

I, for one, am sick of the insult to our intelligence in narcissist sympathizers trying to hand people the line that the poor, poor narcissist doesn't mean to hurt anyone, that they don't know what they are doing, that it just sort of happens, that they think they are behaving normally.

Your brain must be dead if you think that people who abuse ONLY ON THE SLY - behaving like angels when there are witnesses - don't know exactly what they're doing.

To the bullet-headed narcissist sympathizers, I say, "Try real, real hard to understand. Bend a brain cell or two. Repeat to yourself 100 times that "He abuses only in the dark. When other people are watching, he acts like he's full of loving kindness even toward the very one he abuses in the dark."

Maybe if you repeat that simple fact to yourself 100 times, it will sink in. Think. Think real, real hard what it means. Really work at lifting that mental weight. Come on, you can do it. If you try real, real hard you will understand what this simple fact means.

Circumcize your crusty brain, because the average ten-year-old knows that if you hide what you are doing, you know what you are doing and that it's wrong.

Especially when you go to great lengths putting on a phony show of being the exact opposite type of person.

Get a clue: that ain't mental illness; that's just diabolical.

What's more, even the average ten year-old is smart enough to know that if you can control yourself when there are witnesses, you can control yourself when there aren't.

Too complex? Read my lips: that ain't mental illness; that's just sneakiness to get away with wrongdoing.

Sorry, but if you narcissist sympathizers can't see that, no one can enlighten you.

What's more, narcissists are sadistic. The well-known narcissist Sam Vaknin himself often says this. And anyone abused by a narcissist knows it.

Sadism is proof positive of the intent to cause pain.

It is also proof positive of the ability to empathize when the narcissist or psychopath wants to. Unfortuanately, the only time they choose to empathize is when calculating what to do to cause maximum pain. You know - the empathy of professional torturer, used only to feel out what type of treatment will wound most deeply.

The courts know this all this too. Psychopaths (who are all narcissists too) and other narcissists flunk with flying colors all the insanity tests. Which is why NPD and psychopathy are no defense and are considered character disorders, not personality disorders.

And the mental health establishment has no credibility on the question, since they call cigarette smoking a mental illness and called homosexuality a mental illness till the day the politically correct wind shifted. How can anyone respect the judgement of a herd like that?

While I won't argue that NPD isn't a mental illness, I see that, if it is, it is far more likely the fruit of thoroughly depraved character, not the cause.

If you must twist your brain into a bowlful of tangled spaghetti to "rationalize" irrational and predatory behavior, you are going to end up with a damaged mind. But it's an EFFECT, not a cause, of vicious behavior.

But, go ahead, narcissist sympathizers. Insult your own intelligence all you want: it's a free country. Just don't expect anything but what you have coming for insulting mine or anyone else's.

http://narc-attack.blogspot.com

Apr 19 - 10AM
loveofmylife
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Wow, once again fits it to a T

"He abuses only in the dark. When other people are watching, he acts like he's full of loving kindness even toward the very one he abuses in the dark." It is so creepy. I finally had to tell the owner of the company that I think either my N is an abuser/charmer or bipolar as I've never seen anyone act like this before. Last week the owner sent the two of us an email asking my N not to do something. The N responded to the owner very sweet and polite and 2 minutes later fired off a hateful email to me. At this point I did show the owner and said "this is why I can't work with him anymore. I'm not sure if he is bipolar or what?" The owner's reaction was - "wow, I always thought you two were incredibly close. Could have fooled me!" I said, "Me too!" _______ The very next day after I was in the hospital caring for my terminal father and received the "you disgust me, and you have no spinal column" email, a Bank sends an email wishing me well. At the bottom was an email where my N had emailed the bank saying "she is with her father. She is in alot of pain right now as they were close. But I think a nice lunch out would be good for her, talking about work would get her mind off of it. (I know her very well as we have been good friends for many, many moons). Best!" And the email basically said he would take care of everything while I was out. So how does one abuse someone who is taking care of her dying father and turn right around and act like we are the closest of close friends to an outsider. It is sick. ______________ Writing these things is incredibly theraupetic. Helps boil things down to their ugly nature.
Apr 19 - 10AM
Jessika (not verified)
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I absolutely LOVE this author

Thank you so much Barbara for sharing her writings with us. I recall when you posted the link to her book-- I was in so much pain at the time that I was only capable of reading it in little bits and pieces, bc she was SO brutally honest that if you weren't really able to handle the truth- it was gonna HURT! I would read and cry... read some more and cry. My heart was breaking at what a monster I was with and that it was merely a game of 'gimme some attention' and let me hurt you! Now I read her work and I'm like WOW-- this woman gets it better than any of my colleages and these people have Ph.Ds, MDs, and Psy.Ds!! Now isn't THAT scary! I wish she was still living to share more of her thoughts.
Apr 19 - 3AM
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my mom may have finally gotten it

I have been upset lately having to deal with ex because of the passport deal on son. I have broken down in front of my mother and cried. She finally said make sure to keep records of what he does to you and now I think they call what he is doing abuse. YA think. She isnt on the receiving end of being told Im a good actor, why dont I show the real me to everyone, when I started back to severing the ties I was told "Now that is the person I wanted to divorce, I am so mean, I just want to make him feel like the worse dad in the world, I dont know what I am talking about when it comes to the ow, He isnt going anywhere and will be a part of his sons life oh sorry now its our son(but doesnt call much or ask for extra time and whines that he doesnt get to see son), he could barely take care of himself, I would see things the way I do, He left because it was just getting worse and it was because of what i didnt do(ow in the background), he might not like who I date, brings things up about our past, and my new favorite he wants me to text him to let him know I am emailing him required things on son. Guess mom should be on my end to get the full benefits of all this.