Narcissist and a Serial Murderer - Similar traits? Here is my analogy...

It's been hard for me to accept this personality disorder for many reasons.

One reason, I do not want to believe my ex was an N. Another is I believed that there was a way to "help", "fix" or "cure" them, until now.

When I was finally told N's are "sick" or even hear the word "sick" - it's a word that is familiar to me in a way that a sick person can get better. Whether it be from medicine, therapy or anti-depressants.
And even by Prayers and/or inspiration -If there is a will, there is a way.

Michelle115 had a link that was very pivitol to me. This woke me up to the disorder.
PLEASE READ IT! (after this!)

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/how-and-why-a-psych...

This link frightened me too. These Narcissists are TRULY screwed for the rest of their lives.

Think of what it would be like to live their lives.
They repeat the same patterns over and over again! Just like that movie Ground Hog Day! And with every new day, they perfect their craft, their brainwashing and manipulating ways until they get it right, just like Bill Murray's character! The older they get, I am guessing the more dangerous they are.

They will never, ever be well. In the link they were saying for the most part, they are born this way more so than from their enviroment.

EXCERPTS:
"psychopaths function far below the emotional poverty line. They’re much shallower than what we generally call “superficial” people. This has a lot to do with the faulty wiring in their brains."
"“Recent laboratory evidence indicates that in psychopaths neither side of the brain is proficient in the processes of emotion."

THIS AGAIN, is ANOTHER article explaining the Narcs patterns with their sources (US) and the D&D.

I swear, reading this over and over and over again, it's starting to sink in.

These N's are psychopaths.
They like to and don't care if they hurt people.

So I started thinking how scary and dangerous these people are. And that they are walkling around freely, and people who know them on the surface are none the wiser...

These Narcs are searching for new prey and ITCHING to strike...Just like a serial murderer. It's a thrill for them. An addiction. They repeat the same patterns, just like a serial murderer.

These N's are corrupted, JUST LIKE A SERIAL MURDERER...
But of course, they haven't actually MURDERED anyone.

But didn't they ATTEMPT to kill our souls?

This analogy I conjured up has helped me realize the severity of their sickness.

To literally compare the two, side by side and seeing similarities - makes me MORE afraid of my EX N than glorifying him and missing him and wondering if he loves this new girl more than me.

So here is my scenario of both combined...

Imagine, if you will, meeting your N for the first time.

WOW! I am so lucky...I am in heaven!!!
In your eyes, he is soooo charming, has everything in common with you, SO SEXY, HOT, you feel amazing chemistry with him and you KNOW you've met the one and that you are soul mates.

In the Narcissists eyes, you perfect prey. You are swallowing and believing everything he is saying.

ALAS!!! In one hand, behind his back, he has the sharpest and biggest knife, and this knife is STILL soaked and dripping of blood from his most RECENT victim.

He is CRAVING and NEEDING to hurt, stab, kill you with this knife, but he knows he has to play the game first or you will run away - and besides, the tease, the chase is fun for him. He is addicted to it.

He feels NOTHING for you. He is void of emotion. He is empty. In fact, he feels growing hatred toards you because you seem so happy!
The only kind of feeling he feels is the anticipation and thrill of stabbing you and watching you suffer and die.

But he is patient. Narcissists are the most patient people when it comes to the hunt. I read with Narcs that patience is greatest virtue this hunter has to possess in order to pounce upon and kill his prey.

He HAS to be sure ALL his cards are on his side. He tells you he loves you. He says you are the most beautiful girl/guy he has ever seen. You're reaction to his words means everything to him - in only a way that will be useful in trapping you into being obsessed with him. That is his GOAL!

So time goes by...And things seem heavenly to you!

Then OUT OF NOW WHERE he verbally ATTACKS you,
He loves to see the horror of shock on your face and tells you he is about to kill you...(dump you for someone else, screams at you then abandons you or he makes an excuse to leave).

You are shocked. You are confused. I thought he TRULY loved me? Why the HELL is he hurting me out of the blue like this? Where did this come from? What did I do to make him so angry? MY GOD! I think I am REALLY GOING TO DIE! (you actually feel like you are going to die!)

He whips out his knife and shows you the freshly dripping blood on it.(this is "new" blood, totally different DNA from the first hidden knife behind his back!).
He tells you HOW and WHO he just killed and who he wants to kill next! (Kill = had/have sex with).

As he is stabbing you (devaluing you) his heart is beating faster with every stab(verbal assault). He is feeling "high" and relieved, like after an orgasm.
(they truly feel powerful degrading and hurting us).

Then, he leaves you on the side of the road to die in the middle of a desert, all alone, knowing you are totally screwed. OMG...is he smiling? (DISCARD!!!)

Then you are rescued and go to the hospital. You have surgery, stitches and lots of healing from the 1100 stab wounds.
There is NO WAY he could stop at a mere 1000 times! 100 more for good measure!

Your heart, stomach, lungs, kidneys were bludgeoned and the rest of your body shredded. It will take a VERY VERY long time to heal (NC!). He made damn sure when he devalued you, you were NEVER going to forget his malicious words. (It HURTS, you OBSESS...BUT NC!!!!!)

As you get better and are healing beautifully, you go home. But you are aware you will have a lot of scar tissue and no longer blame yourself for being victimized.
(NC!)

Sunny days go by and you hear a knock on your door.
Guess who??? (HOOVERING).

AND WE WELCOME HIM BACK??????? YES WE DO!!!
I know I have PLENTY OF TIMES!

I know not all N's are murderers. Ours aren't.
But they DID ATTEMPT MURDER, in my eyes!

OH, and Unbeknownst to you, he was on a "killing spree" (sex-capades) while you were involved with him and while you were healing in the hospital.
He felt he just HAD to tell you this to relieve his guilt and to look like the most honest human being, even if it risked hurting or losing you.

PSYCHO!

Please think of them this way! There really isn't much difference! Both PSYCHOPATHS!!!

This analogy may be a little out there...But it helped me and hope it helps to show some of you just how serious this is!!!!!!!