Narcissism: How to deal with someone who has the 'it's all about me' complex

Great post! The narc being out of our lives is not only for the best, but it is a gift to start over, to reclaim ourselves. I am also so grateful for this board. It is helpful on so many levels. We will overcome and go on to reach our full potential!

Thanks so much for sharing this insight...it is SOOOO true, these Narcs, really are simple creatures...we made them "Super" in our minds the reality is they are pathetic, and emotionally impotent amongst other things. I really think this is perhaps one of the few cases where I would recommend putting one's arse up on their OWN shoulders...walking around with the same amount of arrogance and entitlement that the narc does...of course not with EVERYONE, but when it comes to matters NARC... These shattered pieces of people make it very hard to have any empathy simply because of the havoc and chaos they reap - moreover, the next victim...the OW we get so crazed over...trust me, she'll get it ten times worse...there is nothing to envy. You should go to bed every night and say a prayer...the irony is, I have to live with the image of being equally pathetic falling for his lies, deception, stupidity...I've forgiven myself but can only imagine how many laughed behind my back at my naievity....and how clearly I see just what a shell he was... AND so today, when I see him and his girlfriend that makes Miss Piggy look like she could be Miss Universe...and I mean that and I've had others CONFIRM for me...and I tried VERY hard to find SOMETHING redeeming but I can't, I rest soundly as it is clear they are both distorted and I missed the mark BIG TIME but NEVER AGAIN!!! Ladies, Gentlemen, they are only what you made them...without you, they're NOTHING...remember that and also that the only thing they can do is drag you DOWN...now unless you enjoy the sewer - the reality is, just like Soaper Girl said...you were essentially SAVED! AND please note, this really is not with anger, it is my reality...may not be for everyone but it's what I've learned...and I can still love...just won't do it with a NARC. Hugs!

Yes, losing the narc IS really a good thing. It really hurts now, but we're better off without them. "I wasn't dumped, I was released from captivity." That's a really good way to look at it. I'm free to live a happier life now. We've all dodged a bullet by losing these creeps. It's also interesting to me that you bring up the mythical Phoenix bird, because I tell people that I feel like a Phoenix. I'm rising from the ashes of my life. Xnh hurt me, but he didn't destroy me. Like you, I will live, laugh, and love another day. :) Meanwhile xnh is prancing blithely off to reek his personal version of havoc onto other victims, and spiraling further and further into self-destruction (financial and otherwise) as we speak.