Narcissism and the Dynamics of Evil

The 2nd page regarding Narcissists and Religion gave me a right good laugh indeed! XN claims to be Taoist and has several books on it. Erm...the main componants of Taoism are humiliation, compassion, and moderation. HA! HA HA HA! Unbelievable. I never put the two together until now. He's such a phony.

More than once, when I challenged my ex on his actions and his mistreatment of me, he responded with an indignant, "How dare you! I'm a good person!" Even when I complained that he hadn't done something at my house that he'd promised to do, I was told, "I'm a good person!" It didn't help to point out to him that I hadn't said he WASN'T and he was responding to something completely off-base. It was confusing to me, that's for sure, those random "I'm a good person!" declarations. This article reminded me of that.

My exN is described below..........has a very loyal following because he is sooooo generous and there to help anyone....and that is why I took him back over and over because I felt gratitude and loyalty to him for all he did for me and my kids and family...ugh...makes me sick that he just keeps doing it over and over to his other victims. "The narcissist takes advantage of every opportunity to favor a person who is down and in need -- as long as the prospects that he will be of use later on are good. Such favors might include providing employment, personal counseling, boosting one's confidence, flattery, listening and being sympathetic (at least apparently), etc. Such opportunities supply the narcissist in a number of ways. Primarily, they ensure loyalty for the day that will inevitably arrive, the day when his personal edifice crumbles and he finally falls into the pit he has dug for his enemies over the years. Such a loyal following makes it all the more difficult for anyone to depose him. They also have the added advantage of helping him to persuade himself that he is good and that perhaps the gnawing awareness of that damp and dark cellar at the heart of his character was only a passing fancy. Furthermore, they provide a sense of superiority in that others depend upon him in order to be the persons they have become. When someone finally comes to realize that he is a treacherous and exploitative fraud -- which is inevitable -- , who is going to believe such a person when so many have been directly benefited by the accused? Gratitude makes it easier to excuse his "faults" or minor character flaws, and that is about all that the clues will suggest in isolation -- and most people have poor memories".

Thanks A LOT Silverandgold! this is Brilliant. what an expose! PHEW! I just read pages and bookmarked. EVERY single sentence is horrifyingly TRUE. I have seen it all in him and his parents who both are malignant narcs. incredible ...i am reeling. Had i not been married to this narc and suffered in the hands of his narc parents..i would not have believed even one word of what i just read. .. sadly i was too naive and to slow to even understand that evil exists in this world and it is cloaked.