Narc IMing my friend-INSANITY

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#1 May 25 - 5PM
BAW
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Narc IMing my friend-INSANITY

Just thought I'd share the insanity with you all. My ex-narc (separated husband who is living in his OFFICE after I kicked him out for having an emotional affair) just IMed one of my best friends today with the following ridiculousness.

As a bit of a background FYI - the OW not only works with this friend of mine, but we were all a part of a very close-knit group of friends that the N and this OW are now ostracized from, for obvious reasons.

Names edited to protest the not-so innocent

Narc: why?
BFF: why what?
Narc: why did you pretend to care
BFF: Seriously Narc?
Narc: yes, seriously
BFF: I did care, before I realized what the hell was going on. The level of betrayal and hurt you caused is absolutely incomprehensible.
BFF: And the fact that you don't seem to understand it is mind-boggling.
Narc: you don't know
BFF: And I do care about you. But I want nothing to do with you.
Narc: what you're talking about
Narc: you seriously dont
Narc: what you guys are doing is awful
BFF: Okay.
BFF: Narc, I have to work. I don't have time for this. Please don't contact me again.
Narc: its wrong
Narc: i did everything i could to make things right, except agree never to talk to OW again. that was the requirement, and neither of us could fathom it. Being separated from BAW is excruciating, and same with OW and her husband. Both of us are still crying about it on a nightly basis. We didn't want any of this. And the fact that these people we love are punishing us like this, it's too much. I loved you guys.
Narc: that's it. i just had to say something

Amazingly ridiculous huh? But I do have awesome friends. :)Once again, my policy of NC is validated.

May 25 - 6PM
quietude (not verified)
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sorry but

Real friends don't accept IM's or any form of contact from exN's. Friend thought she was helping, but I'd advise her to actually block him as opposed to saying, 'don't contact me again'. She also should not be forwarding it to you?? Of course he knew she'd share...what a chance to try to tug on your heart-strings though a third party. "i did everything i could to make things right *BULL except agree never to talk to OW again *YA, COULDN'T GIVE UP OTHER SUPPLY that was the requirement, and neither of us could fathom it *OMG, GIVE UP OW, SEX WITH MULTIPLE PARTNERS, HELL NO! Being separated from BAW is excruciating *COULD REALLY USE THAT BACK-UP SUPPLY WHEN NEEDED! Both of us are still crying about it on a nightly basis *BULL, HE'S LOVING THE DRAMA/PAIN HE'S CAUSING we didn't want any of this *HE DIDN'T WANT TO GET CAUGHT! EVERYONE MUST COOPERATE WITH HIM! And the fact that these people we love are punishing us like this YES, IT'S YOUR FAULT HE CHEATED!! HOW DARE YOU INTERFERE WITH HIS N-NESS AND EXPECT HIM TO BE FAITHFUL?? I loved you guys *HE HAS NO IDEA WHAT THE WORD MEANS that's it. i just had to say something *TRYING TO GET TO YOU THROUGH FRIEND...WHAT HE SAYS ARE WORDS WITH NO BACK-UP, PURE B.S.
May 25 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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IMing your friend

she'd better block him and/or change her number and STOP FORWARDING HIS NONSENSE TO YOU!!! she's no friend if she doesn't he's more full of sh*t than an unchanged diaper ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 25 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
BAW
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Just to set your minds at

Just to set your minds at ease - this in NO WAY pulls at my heart strings. Any time I hear some crazy s**t the jerk pulls, it only makes me stronger. It has absolutely nothing to do with me and I am so much happier far far away from that insanity!