narc family

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#1 Dec 22 - 12PM
mickey555
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narc family

I don't want to revisit all the terrible things that happened. That's not progress.

I want to hear about how some of you have moved on and how you deal with no contact with your family. Does it bother you? When did it stop being so aggravating?

My parents are both narcissists. They trained my older brother to be some kind of back stabbing variant.

I'm done with the parents, and I think it was the right choice. They'll never stop or admit anything, so it's pointless to hope to resolve anything.

And I'm about to sever the brother as well. He's just as awful.

But it's hard. It essentially means I have no family. Maybe that's a good thing. People deal with so much that is so much worse. So being alone isn't the worst thing in the world, but at times it still gets to me and makes me angry.

I officially stopped contact with the parents about a year ago. It was really ugly.

And bro is next, though I'll be more tactful this time. Not that tact will help - he'll just deny everything or will say that he was just kidding.

So, any advice? Encouragement? Strategy?

I'm pretty happy when just on my own. But any family interaction continues to bring up old, bad memories or perpetual patterns. Where does it go from here?

Thanks for any replies.