narc-boy has a lot to prove now that we're gone

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#1 May 12 - 2PM
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narc-boy has a lot to prove now that we're gone

This goes out to all the beautiful women on these boards who truly believe that their ex-Narc is now BLISSFULLY happy- now that they've found their TRUE soul-mate! (The New Supply)

You are making a common and destructive mistake if you think Narc-boy will be forever ecstatically happy with Ms. Getting Swept off her Feet For Now (New Woman).

I don't need to tell you that, given time, she will also be D&D'ed. But even if that happens later than it did you (that is actually a BAD sign- it shows that the woman has even poorer self-esteem and looser boundaries than we did!) disordered men DO NOT change. Please underline that.

But the reason for my post is that I want to share my perceptions of these disordered people (I have many family members and Exes that are PD).

Because Mr. Narc has to see himself as PERFECT, the demise of your relationship, in his twisted mind, is ON YOU. He HAS to lie about you and smear YOUR good name to all who will listen because he has to make others believe that YOU are the crazy one- and YOU are incapable of normal human relations. Maybe his family and friends, because they liked you, are curious as to why Mr. Narc as not 'settled down' with you. Or why his relationships never work out...Is he just unlucky in love?

Part of supporting his lies about you (and to deflect suspicions about his disorder), is that NOW, he 'tries too hard' with the New Woman. Even harder than he did with you- the stakes are now higher. His love bombs are now NUCLEAR- she is ENRAPTURED and posting everywhere about their good fortune. Suddenly, they are the COUPLE OF THE CENTURY!

So, you see, Mr. NarcoPath has a LOT to prove to the world (and to HIM, IMAGE is everything!) His EGO and reputation as a 'nice guy' RIDES on this- and he will stop at NOTHING to garner new Supply/drug. We consistently under-estimate their need for SUPPLY. Think heroin addict here- but much more intense!

Are you understanding that now? Will you, beautiful reader finally stop believing his bullsh*t?

If my post makes ONE person feel better today, then I have hit my goal...Thanks for reading this.

Nov 30 - 2PM
standingtall
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Stepping up his game

Nov 26 - 12PM
Polly75
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I was easy going OW

Aug 15 - 7PM
NeverEverAgain
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Rest assured....

Aug 15 - 4AM
owenjohnston
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"But even if that happens

Aug 15 - 1AM
evergreen
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thanks Echo.

Jul 6 - 6AM
Healingslowly_b...
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Sad today

Jul 6 - 6AM (Reply to #76)
Calalily
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Healingslowly-Hang Tough!!

Jul 5 - 11AM
Portia
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OW did receive KARMA

Jul 5 - 12PM (Reply to #74)
midwestdiva
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mirror of my situation..

Jul 5 - 10AM
Froglegs
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Oh goodness yes.

Jul 5 - 12PM (Reply to #58)
Calalily
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reply to Froglegs

Jul 5 - 12PM (Reply to #59)
spinning
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Okay, Cala, I need to jump in here

spinning

Jul 5 - 12PM (Reply to #60)
Calalily
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spinning

Jul 5 - 2PM (Reply to #63)
Froglegs
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Calalily,

Jul 31 - 9AM (Reply to #71)
evergreen
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Power!

Jul 31 - 10AM (Reply to #72)
Calalily
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Agreed

Jul 5 - 2PM (Reply to #64)
Calalily
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AGREED FROGLEGS

Jul 5 - 2PM (Reply to #65)
Froglegs
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The time frames vary

Jul 5 - 4PM (Reply to #66)
LindsayM
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Wash,rinse, repeat.....

Jul 5 - 4PM (Reply to #67)
Calalily
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Lindsay- Rock over the head please!!

Jul 5 - 5PM (Reply to #68)
Froglegs
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Calalily, she CHEATED on her

Jul 5 - 5PM (Reply to #69)
Calalily
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point taken froglegs

Jul 5 - 6PM (Reply to #70)
Froglegs
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You are so welcome! That is

Jul 5 - 1PM (Reply to #61)
spinning
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Dear Cala, braveheart, what an

spinning

Jul 5 - 1PM (Reply to #62)
Calalily
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THANK YOU "NOT" SPINNING ANYMORE!

Jul 5 - 10AM
Calalily
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Anyone with experience of seeing OW dumped too?????

Jul 5 - 11AM (Reply to #56)
Portia
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Calalily see OW/Karma

Jul 5 - 10AM (Reply to #52)
Juliette
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Calalily, I was the OW, and he was NO different!!

Jul 5 - 11AM (Reply to #53)
Calalily
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Juliette

Jul 5 - 1PM (Reply to #54)
LindsayM
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My ex hoovered....