The myth of No Contact
The myth of No Contact
I found a brilliant article online that really resonates with me. It's about No Contact and discusses how this has to be an organic decision rather than something forced right off the bat as a cure.
I will post the link below, but this is the last paragraph:
"I believe that healing from trauma is a process of transformation, and cannot be forced, willed or manipulated. "No contact" has grown into a huge, mythological chimera that claims to cure most ills. It doesn't. It's only a part of the equation."
Once again, I have to compare our "being hoovered" to the alcoholic not being able to resist a drink.
You can tell an alcoholic "DON'T DRINK DON'T DRINK DON'T DRINK" all day, or force them into rehab, but until he/she is ready, the abstinence will most likely not take.
I believe it's the same for many of us who can't let go of an unhealthy relationship, and that reading "NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT" over and over and over isn't the answer. It's a goal, however... when one is ready for it.
Here is the url:
http://narcissism-support.blogspot.com/2009/01/loving-narcissists-and-my...
This article really really
WantMyLifeBack
Nevergoback
I know have to sever this
Being logical
Nevergoback
Thanks so much Nancy xoxoxo
NC became very easy for me
great post thank u
I kept going back for more
Peace. J
Great thread
So true-- James
baddream
Website- loveofmylife
girlfriday
for some of us..
Why I went NC
"I have never been so cold to anyone."
Bringing out the worst
I am horrified at some of
Peace. J
Same here
Monica
Amen
save yourselves
Wow, a 22.5 year honeymoon
Peace. J
Agree on NC being a decision
That explains it. At last.
me too!!
smileyfacepr
As suggested on many sites,
Peace. J
I understand....
TNR1
Aceonelady
Me too, feel like a drug addict