My partner loves a narcissist

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#1 Mar 24 - 9AM
Sugarcoat
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My partner loves a narcissist

For 7 years the man I live with has been in love with and is still actively chasing a female narcissist who has moved on to new victims. He has sought counseling gone no contact for a year and agrees that she is a narcissist but has been talking once again to her stirring up his feelings of guilt and shame as of course with all narcissists the fault love is with held is the victims own doing. I have been very patient once I realized what she was and what she's made him believe about himself. At one point he was suicidal over her craziness and the other men she was using for her gain so helped him realize he needed counseling. She has also lost custody of her child as he is now old enough to realize his mother is nuts and hates her. I am at the point I can no longer continue to understand his need to try to fix their relationship. She does not receive worship from him anymore and doesn't care of course about his 'feelings' so any conversations they have had end in his saying he's sorry to her and feeding her ego.
I had hoped he would get better and move on but I sincerely believe he is lost forever to her sick and twisted evil.
Why can he not just concede to the fact it was not his fault and she targeted him for gain?
I do not feel like his partner anymore either, the person he used to love even though he tells me he still does. Now I'm just a friend trying to help him see the light or he will continue in this spiral of shame and blame.
Now I am a person who cannot trust either and feel it's time for me to leave. I've become bitter and unhappy over all this.
I know she will win and separate him from the only real person who understands what has happened to him and supported him. He tells me I am the only person he trusts. What should I do?

Mar 26 - 8AM
Goldie
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Sounds like you are doing much soul searching