Every time I joined a gym or was serious about getting in shape for myself and my sanity, the N would start a huge fight out of nowhere that didnt make sense. When I would ask what he was angry about, he'd say he didnt know. That was always his answer for abuse. He didnt know why or didnt remember the event at all.
Now that I'm out of the relationship, I see the connection between my weight and him.
Sometimes I ate too much and kinda gave up on myself and the situation. Other times I fought it by taking care of myself, only to be abandoned by him. So I would give up because he would distract me by causing a crisis to happen that I had to deal with.
After he left he admitted to being very jealous that I could possibly be talking to someone at the gym. But I wonder if he is capable of this kind of thought. He wasnt jealous about me, just insecure that someone could possibly steal his supply.
And that's all I was to him. Supply. Not human. I'm learning this through the help of this site.
I must admit that me,myself, and I are responsible for my own weight gain; self-sabbotage! Not that the ramifications of all the destruction weren't a factor, but it was how I was feeling and the nature in which I chose food, that brought me to my weight gain. Before all that had happened, I never had a weight problem. I walked 5 miles per day and went to the gym daily. It all stopped when I went through my divorce. Now, it's getting back into the swing of things that is still my responsibility---and I am going to do it!!!
Guess who's to blame? - SEE TOP POST
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Mine is responsible for my weight loss. I lost 20 pounds over the last year and my hair started to fall out. His response was that I should thank him for helping me loose my pregnancy weight. Infact, when I was at my sickest, he told me I looked my best. He even went on to tell me that he likes anorexic looking girls.
Oh yes dear STBXNH, I am so thankful for your weight loss diet. How can I ever repay you.
I can relate with you, mallory. I hpe you are getting back to a healthy weight. I eat but I don't enjoy it I'm still underweight, gaining some muscle mass but stil see flaws with my body. I was thinking tonight that if he told me I should gain weight I would not struggle with not wanting to eat. That's pathetic,I know. I just try to eat healthy things its a happy medium. I'm so afraid even to get up to the appropriate weight for me. He once took pictures of me from all angles so I could see weight come off and motivate me to exercise. He wanted to play the biggest loser. If I had the money I'd send him the$100 we bet with anote that says I know I lost more weight than you but you truely are the biggest loser!
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nolongercontrolled
I love the idea of sending him the $100 with a net telling him he is the biggest looser! He is just not worth money. Buy yourself something instead.
It is hard to gain the weight when you are so stressed out. I would also have to force myself to eat something healthy everyday. I would try to eat at least three healthy meals, because I was breast feeding. Eventually I had to give up breast feeding because I could no longer produce enough milk, and I was afraid my baby was not getting enough nurishment. I started drinking ensures between meals to help me stop loosing weight.
I looked like a sick skeleton. I am gaining back the weight, and beginning to look healthier. Mine recently made a comment that I look like I am gaining some weight, and should be careful I don't become fat. I don't think 100 pounds is anywhere overweight.
Don't be afraid to get up to your healthy weight. We need to take care of ourselves. It is so easy to just go on not respecting and caring for our bodies. Healing our souls includes healing our bodies.
Yep, I blame my ex for a lot of issues related to lack of motivation, depression, including problems losing weight & getting into shape again. He's gone, not even 4 months and I'm still struggling. I know it's because I have so much to do, so much on my mind --changing my lifestyle since he's no longer in the equation. I know it's a good thing, mentally - unfortunately, my body hasn't gotten the message yet!
Yes I think so
ME!!!
weight loss or weight gain?
weight loss
I can relate with you,
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grossot
I knew it
me too