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My hN's whore wants to know why he doesnt speak to me while she is around/what do you think?

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#1 Aug 30 - 12PM
jaycee
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My hN's whore wants to know why he doesnt speak to me while she is around/what do you think?

My hN told me that his whore wants to know why he doesnt speak to me while she is around, i find that to be an odd question. she either is insecure as to what we speak about, or she is dillusional and thinks i dont care about her, so I said "doesn't that whore know how I feel about her?" he said, obviously, but i dont believe him, why would that stupid question come out of that whore's mouth? what do you guys think of that, pls someone tell me...........

Aug 30 - 12PM
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She May NOT Have Even Said It!

Is it possible he made it up to create a friction between you...making sure you both don't get too close so you cannot compare notes or be supportive? Just a thought. I know my N/P BF does this sort of thing alot more than I know. I get little bits of info here and there after the fact...he says bad things about me when angry...and he also likes to 'put words in my mouth' or attribute things to me that I neither said or felt. He knows his exwife and I get along very well. He probably thinks we might compare notes and support each other (we do, he doesn't know)...so he has tried putting a little distance between us on a few occasions (we are only social and friendly with each other...not 'close' anyway)...he told her one thing...then told me another (ie: he told her I was critical about her mothering skills (never happened), I think she is a terrrific mom) He told me she is 'not to be trusted as she is nice to me, but stabs me in the back'. This works great for him. They fear being exposed...and know the women closest to them could yank their stupid 'great guy' mask off in a swift minute. He would hate to have you two gang up on him and tell him the truth about HIMSELF! xo Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!
Aug 30 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
jaycee
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she may not even have said it

oh I believe she did, (as he knows neither of us would ever talk, ever...) he will never talk to me when she is around, but I am wondering is it because she is insecure as to what we talk about? or does she not realize how I loathe her, he may say oh, she doesnt care, shes glad she threw me out, but he knows in a million years i would never speak to that whore ever...........so lets say yes, she did say it, why, insecurity or is she dumb as to think i dont loathe her.

Jaycee

Aug 30 - 1PM (Reply to #9)
ShaynasMommy
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Jaycee

I wouldnt take anything he has to say about her into consideration. Honestly, your very sanity depends on it. He is a liar. His self-image, his former marriage (on his part), his whole life is ONE GINOURMOUS LIE. Any time his mouth is moving, he's lying. If I were you I would keep it strictly business. If he tries to engage with you, make excuses that you are too busy to go into it right now and get outta there. Its all crazy-making tactics. Its what they thrive on, 24/7. Take good care of your own mental health and just say no to it.
Aug 30 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
Used
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talking to the enemy

my n thought me and his gf would never talk, we too got off to a rocky start, was he wrong, she sought me out to gloat, it ended up backfiring, cos he had told me all about her, but using another womans name, it was only when she said she had taken him somewhere ,the penny dropped he had been telling me about her, i told her everything she had ever done to him and with him. she kept saying he has used me. when i saw him after, he said i didnt think you 2 would talk in a million years, i said you underestimated us, woman. and she underestimated me and so did you. guess what he said? she(ow) has dropped me right in it, she means nothing to me she is a convience. nice a.
Aug 30 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
jaycee
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talking to the enemy

used trust me, in ten million years i would never ever speak to this torturous whore, ever, under no circumstances...and he knows that. my point was, if she did say that, and who knows if she did, why would she, her insecurity, or what? why would she want to know, lets say its true and she did ask him, why????

Jaycee

Sep 1 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
Used
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jaycee

b/c she is insucure, thats what i was trying to say in a post to you before,he was seeing another woman when he was married[her] so how can she ever be secure, she knows she has a male whore and she knows she will not be able to keep him faithfull, she is not going to ask about his other women[b/c she doesnt know about them] does she?. you were his wife, you had his children, and a lot of history together, if that doesnt stop him from cheating, what chance has she got, i know it is hard for you to be so in the picture, that you cant see the bigger picture. i cant say enough that she knows what she is dealing with with him. of course she pays for everything and they go out together, on her money, she is afraid to let him out of her sight. why would that be, cos she knows the minute he is away from her he will be doing another woman, i believe she said it, if i was out with n, he used to ignore his ow[i didnt know she was his ow], when i found out i said you ignored her, how did she handle that, he said,i told her what she wanted to hear, that shut her up. he is using her big time , while she keeps him and !you! he cheats with other woman, did you feel secure with him did you ask him questions, this is how she is living now, on a knife edge all the time. thats what she fought for and this is her payment, she certainly won first prize. or is it the booby prize, i know what i think. one day she will try to talk to you,even if you ignore her, on that day you will know its all over and she has lost.
Sep 1 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
jaycee
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jaycee

used I pray you are right, but from what i gather, this girl knows how to work him as well, she threatens to throw him out, fights with him, i know this, not from the N, shes demanding, controlling and knows how to keep him staying, not just by buying by her own push and pull, you love me the way i want, or ill throw you out and youll never see me again. i know she knows how to work him. thats why sometimes he is distant here, because hes worried he might loose her, by her choice, not his. but i pray you are right.

Jaycee

Sep 1 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
Used
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nonono jaycee

all the things you said to him once, and you still kicked him out, tell me this if he was so afraid to lose her, why did you have to kick him out to her, why didnt he go of his own accord. let her play him at his own game, she wont win. he comes to you distant, yeah right. it is an act. to get your attention,if she was THE BOSS, he wouldnt be visiting his wife,and dont say she doent know, otherwise why would he be telling you what she says. you are beign played by him, the more he pretends he cant do without her the more you will cling to him[he hopes] tell him, he cant visit again till he finishes with her. see what he does about that ultimatum
Sep 1 - 9PM (Reply to #8)
jaycee
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nonono jaycee

used, you make all the sense in the world, but i wasnt sure if he were going to leave me eventually anyway or leave me within that same week, as she had been giving him more and more ultimatums, even though it had been going on between them for over two years, not that we can believe him, but he said, i went away that weekend but i was not leaving you and i was coming home, home is where i wanted to be, and he told his mother he wanted to stay here cause he liked it that way.....meaning he wanted his family and his whore on the side. but i hope you are right, and i hope she is not the boss, i hope hes just letting her play boss.....you must have read my mind because i am telling him until he is threw with his whore, i have nothing to say to him, and he is not to visit here again......lets see how he likes that. oh, and by the way he still tells me hes not happy with her and wants out but has no where to go, so i dont know if he cant do without her.......who knows, i hope he really is unhappy and has no where to go, rather than he cant do without her.....

Jaycee