my hN thinks he's really punishing me for having my own life, finally.......

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#1 May 25 - 3PM
jaycee
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my hN thinks he's really punishing me for having my own life, finally.......

my hN thinks he's punishing me because he can't stand that I have my own life, my own life finally, after twenty six years of pain and suffering. I guess I now realize what a 7th grader he really is, he is now, not only prancing around town with the ow, he's made plans to take her to couples night with some of our mutual friends, one of which is a dear friend of mine, ewwwwwwwwwww, does he not know that underneath their smiles, they are saying ok, be nice to the low life degenerate and his homewrecker, lol....he thinks they worship him and hes humiliating me, guess what, hes not, he can pretend he's thrilled that ive moved on, but he's made every excuse in the book to come here, call me, and i dont even give him the time of day, im done, im through, he's her problem now. Can you all believe im saying this, yes, jaycee is saying she's done and through with the looser, yeah, I never thought I would feel this way, but i do. Finally, you guys, im free from the monster and from myself..........thanks to all of you for putting up with my repetitive bs for so long, i pray each and everyone of you feel well and move on, i feel like the weight of the world is off my shoulders, hope i dont have any more whining days ever again....xoxo jaycee

May 27 - 10AM
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Jaycee

This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today! Thanks so much for posting as well as CONGRATULATIONS for arriving at this wonderful new place that you've found! When I peruse the board these days, I'm searching for exactly this sort of "happy ending" message. It gives me hope as I struggle to get through this healing. AFter 25 years, I can only imagine what HELL you've been through to get here and that totally motivates to just keep moving forward. BTW, where did you and your new friend meet?

Believe in yourself!
Terri

May 29 - 4AM (Reply to #11)
jaycee
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hi terri

glad i could say, yes, there are happy endings. trust me, if you read my past posts and my story, you will know i was the last person here that would be able to say, im in a totally different place right now. i struggled for so long, i was mentally physically and emotionally spent, i really thought i would die from heartache and the mental torture of being married to a narc for so long. but guess what, there is hope at the end of every road, trust me, i promise you, and i dont even know how i got there. as for my friend, i actually have known him for twenty five years, hes a business associate of my brother in law, and lives about an hour away and travels to nyc for work, so i have hardly seen him over the years, but always thought he was so nice and very funny. He's so genuine, as he never ever approached me while i was married, actually never even gave me the time of day, other than to say he loved my style and thought i was from nyc. we ve met at business functions several times, and had some laughs, as he is hilariously funny, but last month i went with my brother in law to a get together and he was there, we looked at each other, smiled and i walked right over to him, not thinking anything, and started talking to him, he said wow you look fabulous, hows everything, i said im well, and he asked how my family was and i said, my children are well, thank God, but im no longer with my husband, and boom, his eyes sparkled, and we talked the entire night then went for dinner at a cool japanese restuarant, and laughed and i ve been hanging out with him everyday since. its crazy, but i really think hes my soul mate, i love him, i love him, not for what he looks like, as my husband is a very handsome, workout bodybuilding type, and my friend is not, i dont love him because hes extremely wealthy and very generous, i love him because he looks at me like im the most beautiful woman in the world, and listens to every word i say, and treats me like im his princess. and i love him because he loves me, and believes he has no reason to be looking for the next best thing, because hes says hes found the best thing. he told me hes been searching for me his whole life, and he finally found me. hes going to marry me, i know this, and im going to marry him, because he absolutely loves me for me, not for any other reason, im not supply to him, im the woman hes always wanted, and a plus, hes been divorced for 16 years, has been single for a year and a half, and has no children, but wants to know my children and do anything for them that he can, simply because he loves their mom, and ps, my daughter thinks hes awsome, told him she loves how he makes me happy, my son lives clear across the country but told me hes so happy for me. now thats a plus and thats a happy ending. i no longer desire the narc, nor care what he and the ow are doing, just want to be with my man, im me again, and it feels great, i was lost for a quarter of a century but now ive been found......yeah, i pray everyone here feels the way i feel because the release of not being bound to a narc, is like dying and going straight to heaven, i promise i will happen for you as well......xoxo jaycee

Jaycee

May 27 - 12AM
jaycee
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thanks for all the great replies

Girls, trust me, I know you never thought I would survive, I never thought I would survive, but I did and Im truly happy.....I finally found myself again, and no matter what happens with my new friend, I know there is life after a narc.....I dont care what he does where they go and what they do, as long as Im happy........yeah, I made it out of hell, and it helps to have a really genuine human being by my side. my new friend, wow, hes totally rocking my world, and its nothing like what i had with the narc..this guy makes me laugh takes me everywhere and thinks im the most beautiful woman in the world, inside and out. I asked him why he loves me so much, he said I love your personality, your smile, and most of all I love your brain, wow, who knew, someone noticed I have a brain......that did it for me, im crazy about him and it gets better everyday........he saved me, in every way a person can be saved, so i will forever thank God for bringing him into my life.........regardless of what happens from now on........and for those of you who are still feeling the pangs of the narc, read my story and all my obsessive posts and know there is hope......i promise....xoxo jaycee

Jaycee

May 26 - 2PM
nancyh
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Yea Jaycee!

So happy for you! Hope I get to the point that you are at! Big Hugs to you, Nan

Nan

May 26 - 2PM
nancyh
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Yea Jaycee!

So happy for you! Hope I get to the point that you are at! Big Hugs to you, Nan

Nan

May 26 - 1PM
WellRed
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I am very happy for you.

I am very happy for you.
May 25 - 11PM
ifinallygotit
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yah!

Proud of you! maybe there is hope for me. I still feel a heavy weight on me from first the abandonment and then the flaunting of new cheap looking GF on FB.
May 25 - 7PM
Deidre40
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I AM SO PROUD OF AND HAPPY

I AM SO PROUD OF AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!!! I remember your story, and this is so uplifting and encouraging!! It's amazing, isn't it? It feels like that weight will never lift, and then one day...poof. It seems to get lighter and lighter. And then, you have peace, and indifference. God bless, and hang tough! {{{hugs}}}
May 25 - 5PM
findingmeagain
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GREAT JAYCEE he has some

GREAT JAYCEE he has some nerve bringing the whore to something like that . oh well they don't feel a thing anyways.
May 25 - 4PM
mynewlife2011
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I "SERVED" my narc for only

I "SERVED" my narc for only 14 years, so I am bowing down to you woman!! i don't know how you survived, and yes it is high time for us both to "get a life" and "not give a rats ass" about them, their issues, the OW, whatever. I feel like you do. The latest OW of my ExNH is uneducated, no career (think in terms of a janitor), an amatuer body builder who got 8th place 5 years ago, 3 different kids with 3 different baby daddies and stretch marks all over (why anyone would put pics of themselves in a swimsuit all over the net in a bikini with stretch marks all over their stomach, thighs etc in itself makes me question her mental insufficiencies), AND classifies herself on FB as a lesbian. Then I thought about it- It is good she is a body builder, because he NEEDS HIS ASS KICKED!! Maybe she is a Narc too- I think all body builders are narcs now- and stay far the hell away from that. Don't worry honey, THEY WILL GET THEIRS, and the best part.. THEY WILL CREATE IT THEMSEVES Good for you for regaining your life, your sanity, and your hopes/dreams for your future. It is now all about YOU!! Hugs!
May 25 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Redhead1
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Again, all I can say is

Again, all I can say is GOOOOO JAYCEE! and keep going!! So proud for you on your progress:)