my head knows, but my heart hurts

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#1 Feb 24 - 7AM
shyloh
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my head knows, but my heart hurts

Since ex has asked me to move back to his state-and I flip flopped for a few days then said no....then he cut ff contact with me again. Well, I know what the right thinkg is in my brain, but my heart is having such a hard time. I have friends who say they wouldnt speak to me if I did, and everyone else saying I would be crazy-then why do I even still question it for a moment.

My ex mil (D's grandmom is staying with me-we get along well, actually her and ex's dad havent spoken to ex in 2 years). Her staying with me is bringing a lot of feelings up again.

i am absolutely 150 percent doing the right things by not moving!!??????

Feb 24 - 11AM
Sparrow
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He didn't like your answer,

He didn't like your answer, so he cut you off at the knee caps. He is on unfamiliar soil, needs to seek out supply and doesn't want to have to do the work, so sends for you. You decline, and he gets mad.........it's all good. You did the right thing and you know it in your heart of hearts. Doesn't mean that you won't have regrets about your decision after the fact. Or second guess yourself. It's normal to have these feelings. Just remember, follow your gut. Your gut knows and won't let you down. Trust it. I remember one member, quite some time ago, uprooted herself to be with her narc, to another country actually. She was there but just a couple weeks. He threw her out of the house. No coat, none of her belongings, no money for busfare, not even a dime to call home to have money wired to her. She knew no one, she had no where to turn. Slept, I believe in a bus station and had a stranger help her to make her way back home. He had the nerve to ask her to return after all of that. Simply because he was out of supply. Stay put where you are and work on your healing. It hurts, it's suppose to. If it didn't, nothing would be learned. Stay strong.
Feb 24 - 9AM
aceonelady
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hi shyloh

Well if he really loves you,he wouldn't pressure,he would give it sometime,but specially he wouldn't be cutting you off...That's what i think.I tried to read your Story,but couldn't find it...did you poted it yet?Hughs

Aceonelady

Feb 24 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Snowflake
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This was her other post Ace

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2012/02/16/ex-narc-wants-me-back If he wanted you he would be being nice to you not cuting you dead...how abusive was he hon ? Listen to your friends....
Feb 24 - 11PM (Reply to #3)
aceonelady
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Thanks Snowflake

Nice of you...Hughs

Aceonelady