My first counselling session. Not easy
My first counselling session. Not easy
I had my first private session with a
counselor today. After explaining and
telling her about everything I've felt and
experienced, she did agree that my
unhapiness was precipitated by my
checking his phone and invading his
privacy.
Regardless of what he had or hadn't
done, I have to accept and start coming
to terms with my share of what hapenned.
Which, now that I've heard this from a
professional, makes mr feel a bit less
crazy. So we're looking at why I felt the
need to check his phone, how I could
have handled and dealt with what I found
and, more importantly, why I reacted like
I did when he had always maintained
he didn't want a relationship or 'any
ties'. Her approach is in her words
'ownership' and looking at why
I walked knowingly into this situation.
But the crux of the matter is my invasion
of his privacy and what that signifies
to him. While she thinks he handled
it badly, I handled myself badly too. My
behavioural choices were questionable
and seriously off-putting to a partner
who, as is the case, may reject both
the person and the behaviour.
So i guess that the approach is to deal
full on with my part in this and to
understand his reaction and 'own' it.
I do feel worse in the sense that my
worst suspicions of being a bit of a bunny
boiler are to some degree founded. But
it's almost validating to hear someone
else say it. But if I can accept my part,
label it how I like (boiler etc) then we can
work on it not happening again.
Progress at last, but not easy.
OMG!
Slap some Sense into that Counsellor!
lucky
our responsibility
MissM
FIRE HER
total bullsh#t!!!!
I agree
Your therapist is making you
Miss M
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nolongercontrolled
One Sunday
wow. i don't think there is
agree
no way
I agree. Some people are
don't feel comfortable with that
MissM
Even before I read the other