My ex Narc's-speak (share yours too)

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#1 Jul 17 - 7AM
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My ex Narc's-speak (share yours too)

Thought I would share some of the "interesting" things my ex-narc would say...pure narc-speak.

*Noone will love you more than me, Noone. I love you like nothing I have ever felt before. Its PHEROMONES. Its unconditional and natural.
*Noone has loved you more than me. (I disagreed coz yes they have, and he wuld debate this and get shitty).

*I have never loved anyone like I loved you. Not even my ex-gfs. You are the ONE.

*I have never contemplated marriage because I never found the right girl.Love to me is magical.

*I have never been so sexually attracted to anyone, like I am with you. The sex with you is the best because its emaotional.

*I follow you around like a puppy; id do anything for you.

*You are so cold and unloving.

*All my other ex gfs were different. They put me on a pedastal.(always compared...always)
*I was gutless, I couldnt let her go (ex).

*I had a security blanket and I wasnt able to leave.

*I know what it feels to be loved and you dont love me.
* You are inept, you dont know what love is. You have issues.

*You are nasty and selfish.

*Why didnt you pick up? Where r u?

*I only stalked you because I wanted to make sure you went home. I needed to convince myself that you are true. Then he said something along the lines of "to keep you in line".

*I want to know everything about ur life and be part of you. We are one. (enmeshment)

* I do trust you (even though he stalked me, asked 100 qns and made snide remarks).

*why dont you show me as much attention as you pay to FB?

* I dont care if your friends and family dont like me.

* Im better than this. I deserve better than this. I deserve to be loved.

*Im not lying...ha ha ha to this one. (Im not a pathological liar).

* I didnt tell you because I knew you wouldnt be happy (no shit)

*I omitted the truth to keep the peace, to placate ppl, I didnt lie (in regards to an incident with his ex).

*Im intelligent, Im top 10% of people. Everyone at work likes me. All the girls and GUYS were looking at me on the train...(this made me sick...ugh!) I must be having a good hair day.

* Why dont you ever compliment me, like i compliment you"

* I know you dont like it, but lets try it anyway...(think sexual).

This list could go on and on and on. Seriously the constant up and down. Notice the nice then not nice comments ebb and flow. There was probably many more worse than what I have written but Im blocking this shite out.
Funny thing is; all the stuff i said about integrity and honesty, he would project back to me and use it as a means to show he was working with me. IF YOU EVER HAVE A MAN WHO USES UR WORDS, HE IS MORE THAN LIKLEY A NARC OR BORDERLINE. MASSiVE RED FLAG.

He also made me feel cheap even though he was all about "the love". Thats how borderline/narcs work I suppose. The "dont leave me, im too good for you, i hate you, come back" rollercoaster. If I wasnt in the mood, on occasion, he would have a sook and walk off. Real mature stuff, real emotional fulfillment..NOT.

As hard as it may be alone, NO ONE deserves the instability and the issues. There is another guy out there waiting for ppl like us, real genuine men. We just need to get back into life after living in fog and undertainty.

I am getting better with NC and I hope it continues.....
and I hope his little issues with abandonment are eating him up, thinking about the one that got away. again!

xx

Jul 23 - 1AM
Singer
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Thank you for sharing

Jul 23 - 4AM (Reply to #48)
Lovely1
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Singer

Jul 22 - 8PM
Lovely1
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Oh my

Jul 22 - 11PM (Reply to #45)
neverlookback
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All that Charm

Jul 23 - 12AM (Reply to #46)
Lovely1
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Agreed

Jul 22 - 8PM
neverlookback
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God I cant even remember half of the garbage

Jul 22 - 11AM
prettypeeved
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"You have a tendency to see

Jul 22 - 6AM
lavendar19
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"I'm a chameleon"...chills, I

Jul 18 - 11AM
Delirium
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Reality

Jul 18 - 10AM
Canada
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Sharing my Facebook post from Why Men Love Bitches

Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #39)
jennifer
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Ugh! So true

Jul 22 - 2PM (Reply to #38)
jennifer
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Ugh! So true

Jul 18 - 10AM (Reply to #36)
Jenna H
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Canada

Jul 18 - 10AM (Reply to #37)
Canada
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He used 8 of those techniques

Jul 18 - 10AM
lookingahead
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How textbook is this!

Jul 18 - 5AM
bipolarbutton
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dickhead talk!

Jul 17 - 8PM
no more an echo
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I know it's a great post when...

Jul 17 - 8PM
Reason2Believe
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LOL

Jul 17 - 8PM (Reply to #30)
no more an echo
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LOVED your responses!

Jul 18 - 6AM (Reply to #31)
Reason2Believe
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I am surprised

Jul 17 - 7PM
OneDay@aTime
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Decisions, decisions....

Jul 17 - 1PM
transcend
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things ex N said

Transcend

Jul 17 - 5PM (Reply to #26)
I believe
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Don't you trust me? (In

Jul 17 - 5PM (Reply to #27)
I believe
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Also: How did we get to this?

Jul 17 - 12PM
knighty2035
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Hmmmm

Jul 17 - 12PM
sweetpeasarah
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OMG

Jul 17 - 12PM (Reply to #23)
sweetpeasarah
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Oh!

Jul 17 - 11AM
Peeks
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Lovely 1 -

Jul 17 - 5PM (Reply to #21)
Lovely1
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They are all the same Peeks.

Jul 17 - 8AM
fallingfoward
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This one still gets me.......