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bcarbara, i was out today and with a friend havig coffee, the exn appeared out of nowhere and just stood there staring, i stayed calm ,and left my male friend ,called a cab, and he followed me and watched me get in the cab, i am now at home, having panic attacks ,but i am gutted he is on the prowl again ,when i ended 6 weeks ago ,i ment it , and truly thought he was out of my life.This is the man who once said if he could k;;l me and get away with he would do it, but he knew all roads lead back too him.I cant even believe ,that he would believe i would go back, and though it was frienship, i relize he was grooming me, and just abiding his time with sex,cos i said i didnt do it,he was lulling me in to a false sence of surcurity,given what he said to me when i finished with him. i just dont want to write he what he said to me,it feels too raw

I added some graphics to your site and have some links to add but after that it's all up to you. HOWEVER 1. I took all ALL the parts where you BLAME YOURSELF and say you are ADDICTED to him and it's YOUR FAULT. HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can not be addicted to a Narc. They lure you, brainwash you & manipulate you. You did nothing NOTHING... I repeat NOTHING wrong. If you ever get a chance to read WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS (don't be put off by the title - it covers Narcs too btw...) it shows you EXACTLY how they lure, entrap and hook you and then get you to beat YOURSELF up for the whole thing. http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/01/am-i-under-his-spell.html http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/01/am-i-under-his-spell-part-ii.html http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/01/am-i-under-his-spell-part-iii.html You are NOT stupid, naive, desperate, gullible or anything of the sort. The early days of being wooed and lured by a pathological are the most exciting times that women remember. Consistently described as “charming” the pathological is irresistible in his personality traits. Women described him as “a charming and engaging conversationalist, agreeable, insightful, sweet, twinkling eyes, a compelling talker, funny, a great storyteller, fun to be with, delightful, exciting, companionable, loyal, enthusiastic, upbeat, fun-loving, intense, and sensitive.” From this list of traits, it’s easy to see why women are enamored with his personality. By this list, what’s not to like? During the luring stage, he is highly complimentary. Pathologicals use intensity and then flattery to overwhelm her emotionally, and then set her at ease. The purpose of the luring stage is to hook her. The purpose of the honeymoon stage is to hoodwink her. In the pathological’s arsenal to achieve this hooking and hoodwinking, is any person, place, thing, word, or behavior that will sell her on his illusion. While she is reeling in flattery, swimming in the bonding-hormone oxytocin (from all the sex), and snuggling up to his stories of their future lives together… the pathological is solidifying his internal imprint in her by his use of trance and capitalizing on her suggestibility. Sandra Brown, MA - WOMEN WHO LOVE PSYCHOPATHS 2. Call him what he is - a PREDATOR!! I really hope you put this man on every exposure site and report him to the dating sites he is on. He's a sick piece of crap. He can not be MUTUALLY ADDICTED to you - he can't feel - he's an animal - NOT HUMAN - a predator. No feelings - all an act. STOP STOP STOP blaming yourself even a little bit. Nope. Not ONE BIT! courtneyj's blog: http://survivorofmred.blogspot.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B

Having read what has been posted so far I see it isn’t done with yet. Anyway, from what I read it’s very good and encouraging! I believe it will help others understand that we do in fact become addicted to these people. As for the reasons? Well like you stated let’s leave that up to the professional. I know that I too was addicted to her and still to this day don’t really understand or know why? What I do know is because of my children born from this dysfunctional relationship I become what I always wanted! A father! Something I wanted even when I was but a child. So that insomuch that which is dysfunctional and destructive we can still bring out some good from it. I may have wasted much of my effort and time on her but never had I wasted this same time and effort on my children who I feel will understand how important it is not to get involved with anyone who suffer from a personality disorder. Truly they will benefit from this life lesson more then myself. If only I had a father and/or caretaker with this insight for I know for a fact that I wouldn’t be here today writing this... If we educate and teach all those who will listen, just maybe they will not become addicted to the people of the lie! For like any type of addiction, in the end it destroys all that it touches. Thanks for sharing!! http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/

Thanks for the invite and will read it asap! http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/

I'm still working on the site but feel free to come comment for courtney. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. B