Mothers Day Card??

Personally, I think of her like us. She probably has a big heart and is just being thoughtful. I know where that would also hurt, but you know the Narc doesn't have a heart and certainly doesn't care about anyone but himself.

I don't know how exactly to interpret it? On the one hand, does she really have to "thank you" for doing what comes naturally? But something tells me that she's trying *rather akwardly* to establish some kind of "connection" with you. On some level, she must sense that the Daddy has his head up his butt and on some level, she might be assuming "responsibility" you know how that happens when you're with a Narc...so subconsciously, it might bother her that he's such a crap head about it and so is trying to "fix" this for him by taking action...you know how we "fix" things...and she may or may not at this point have "thoughts" about what she's in for...remember the "flags?" I remember doing things like getting HIS mother the Mother's day gifts, his kids the Christmas gifts, kinda like a "personal" shopper and such...so I think on some level, she does not mean ANY harm towards you but can't figure out if she's trying to connect cause she thinks she may need that "connection" at some point, or if she's still in the dark but wants to win you over as the mother of his child? Either way, I think it was a thoughtful gesture even if a bit confusing - at least I'd be a little mixed up about the intent/purpose but I don't think it's with malice if we have to get to the root of it, but maybe I'm wrong, as I still have chosen to try to see the good in people, just be a little more careful. It would depend on other factors of course and you have more info than I do - but this was my first impression of this. Hugs!

i think its weird why would she send you a mother's day card ? i mean its so many oxymorons here where do i start? instead of her sending a card she should look at the man she is with and ask herself why hasn't he sent something and what does that mean in the future for me? thats what she needed to be doing . it maybe was a nice gesture matter fact it probably was but still she needs to worry about her own porch and if its truly clean. you can thank her and also get a feel of what she really meant by it though. did she even send it is another thing floating around in my head was it you exH really?

Do you take care of her kids at times? I think she's shoving it up your ass or She's figured out he's crazy. Call her and thank her. Get a feel for it. Now Im curious ,Hunter