Minor setback in having hurt feelings

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#1 Aug 2 - 3PM
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Minor setback in having hurt feelings

Hi all...I hope everyone is doing great!!

So I just wanted to share something that bothered me today...in my head I know why he's doing it....but I just want some insight from you all...in the scheme of things it doesn't matter, but being a sensitive person it affects me

So I am not facebook friends with me ex...actually neve have been...he wouldn't allow me to be...I know huge red flag right....

So I noticed over the past few days, he asked his college friend and his highschool friend to defriend me...he had to go out of his way to do this...those two people were only my friends through him...it just hurts because though honestly I could care less if these two people are my friends on a social networking site, it just bothers me that he is going out of his way to ask them to remove me....why?? First of all, I can't see anything on his page bc I'm friends with them...and I don't ca what's on his page...it's just the fact that he obviously is going out of his way to request that they remove me and we all know he is saying I'm crazy, ect....he even removed our mutual friends who are married....and I have never once asked the married couple to tell me what's going on with him on his page....that's contact so I didn't do that and nor would they tell me bc they are more concerned about me and moving on and would not want to hurt me if something on there was bad.....

I didnt even go looking for this info....you can tell when your friend count goes down and whose missing....so though I am much stronger these days, almost 9 weeks NC, I just don't understand what is going on? I'm living my life, I don't bother him, and here we are over two months out and he is only now trying to hurt me....

I think he wants me to notice they are gone from my page so he excerpts power to make me think people hate me and ostracize me....and perhaps it's a way for him to prevent himself from being embarrassed bc I have been going out more with friends and being social and if his friends see this it makes him look stupid

Thoughts?? Heck I know it's about me and my healing...I'm doing what's required, but I'm still new to this and sometimes get setbacks,,.i just want to know what is in his head and what he is gaining by doing this?? I just don't get it....I don't even talk to his college or highschool friend on facebook ever!!!!

Aug 3 - 5AM
Used
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emotional

Aug 4 - 5PM (Reply to #18)
Luv2bme
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Blocked and distanced

Aug 3 - 5AM
Luv2bme
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Trust your intuition..,

Aug 3 - 6AM (Reply to #16)
Yolo315
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I took an opposite approach

Aug 2 - 4PM
fefe65
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Hon they were his friends.

Aug 2 - 3PM
Janie53
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ERC

Aug 2 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
Emotionalroller...
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I know him to well...and he

Aug 2 - 4PM (Reply to #12)
Hunter
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Do you think we don't get the

Aug 2 - 4PM (Reply to #13)
Emotionalroller...
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I completely understand, and

Aug 2 - 3PM
Hunter
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Thoughts

Aug 2 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
Emotionalroller...
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No the thing is I am done

Aug 2 - 3PM (Reply to #9)
Hunter
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How are his friends de

Aug 2 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
spinning
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ERC, I just

spinning

Aug 2 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
Emotionalroller...
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You are right...thanks

Aug 2 - 3PM
Emotionalroller...
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I guess my question is is he

Aug 2 - 3PM
Luckyescape
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I suspect it's as you say

Aug 2 - 3PM
Emotionalroller...
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It's just an aweful

Aug 2 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Yolo315
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Of course he is!