mindgames, resulting "disconnected feeling", and does zoloft help?
mindgames, resulting "disconnected feeling", and does zoloft help?
I had a session today with the psychiatrist who diagnosed me with ptsd last week. She does therapy so I decided to use her (she does a lot of guided meditation, so you can feel where the pain is in your body) rather than the counsellor I have been seeing for a few weeks but does not seem to have helped me feel better. As she guided me through my feelings, I started crying uncontrollably. She said that my feeling of disconnect (where I literally feel like I am out of my body on some days) and inability to really accept what has happened (that my ex-H was probably crazy in some way by walking out five months ago and simply never calling me ever again!) is so great that I seem not to be processing what has happened on an emotional level. Logically, it all makes sense, i.e. he man I was married to for five years who convinced me that we were soulmates and partners for life was basically "not the truth".
The realization of this "non truth" coupled with a year of "silent aggression" during which he manipulated me by basically never answering questions about our joint future (why did he look so sad and distracted, why wouldn't he answer the question about if we should buy a house, shall we have that baby he always spoke about wanting, why was he never home and why did he say his friends were so important to him when clearly they had their own lives and families, meanwhile his adoring wife was confused as to her place in his life?) has wounded me so greatly that I think I was the problem and not him! Amazing, but it is true.
Some days I just want to beg him to come back to me and to tell him that I will do anything, all this when I don not even know what I did wrong! The guy has shown no compassion towards me, going from loving husband one day to complete NC the next, screwing with my mind for months by acting like an injured child who needed extra love when, all the while, he was making plans to walk out, telling others lies about me! After all this, I still feel that I could have done something to make him understand that we were great together!
1) Do any of you keep coming back to blame yourselves or feel like, after months, that you're not sure if you ever even met your ex...like this, the D&D as well as the relationship, was all a dream. The psy tells me I am not craxy and this reaction is normal after emotional abuse, and that the worst type of abuse is the "loving husband who ignores you bit by bit".
2) Please let me know if you have tried zoloft? I am so scared of taking an antidepressant. So far, I have only taken antianxiety medicine to help with the sleep, but it seems to be a band-aid and is not addressing the underlying feeling of disconnect between my mind and soul.
She has suggested that I take Zoloft for a few months to get my serotonin levels up (low serotinin apparently responsible for the poor sleep and eating patterns and sudden crying every few days plus the obsessive thinking of him, but above all the feeling of "not being here"). Has anyone tried this? I am not depressed in the "typical" sense (ie not sitting around eating icecream and crying all the time these days, I am able to go to work and generally be productive) and have never suffered from depression before. She says I will not be able to emotionally process things without the support of medication to bring my serotonin back up, and will stay stuck in confusion and disbelief as to what has happened despite understanding that he is not well (either an N or P or who knows--whatever he is, he was a liar in the sense of not talking to me before walking out on what I felt was an amazing marriage, or certainly was lead to believe that there was nothing wrong, meanwhile he must have gone from adoring me to simply hating me for some reason--maybe from a tiny critiicisim of him?!).
Thank you everyone...
I was one of those folks my
agreed- it took the edge off
I agree
I tried it.
Zoloft
Hi Leah
This is what I have to say
Medication
agnesmurphy17
Another Woman
I really feel for you. :-(
What you are going through
Leah2