Merry X-Mas Texts from the Ex

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#1 Dec 25 - 8PM
baddream
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Merry X-Mas Texts from the Ex

He did not stop with last weeks Christmas card addressed by someone else.

He has a new phone number and today he texted me, my daughter, and every other person we both know with Christmas greetings.

There he was, at home with his gf, probably having Christmas dinner, and in the middle of it, goes off and sends these texts.

He is relentless. He doesn't stop. I won't respond in any way, even to tell him to stop. I won't even acknowledge receiving them, nor did I send him any wishes back.

Dec 26 - 8AM
Carolyn
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They have a real will to

They have a real will to annoy! They are like secondhand smoke, someone elses problem that makes everyone around them sick. They love to be intrusive-in your life whether you want it or not. They like to make others have negative emotion and they think they are clever. I have seen so many of them over the years and their final blow-up, in late middle age, is truly a wonder to behold. they somehow lose everything, money, relationshiops, self-espect, self-esteem all of the 'games' they played come back on them with a vengence. The only way you can survive this stage on their road to eventual ruin is to laugh at their tricks. If you can make him look ridiculous in your mind you will feel better. Wasn't that a classroom scene in one of the Harry Potter movies-in order to make the thing you fear the most lose its power make it turn into something that makes it look ridiculous so you can laugh and neutralize its power over you to be afraid. They turn into pathetic clowns in the end don't lose any sleep over him now. Maybe associate the word ridiculous with him.
Dec 26 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
baddream
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Disintegration

On one hand, it feels good to watch. He is disintegrating, just as everything in the literature says. He is now 56 years old, he is losing his looks, does not take care of himself, is losing his money, and can no longer rely on his old resources to charm those around him. Many of the people from his life have figured out his game and will no longer have anything to do with him. As time goes on, he has less and less of his life-blood supply and he is withering away and will no longer exist to himself. Yes, it feels good because this is MY validation of what he is, and answers all the WHYS that were in my head for so long. On the other hand, I am human (even if he is not) and it is a pity to watch. Sometimes I feel sorry for him, but know that it is not in my means to save him without a certain death to myself. Besides, he can not be saved because he never "was".. It reminds me of the wicked witch in the "Wizard of Oz" that disappeared when water was thrown on her--just vanished into nothing.. that is precisely what happens to them when they no longer have a mirror to validate their existence to themselves.
Dec 26 - 7AM
agnesmurphy17
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Be careful

My guess is that things are not going well with the new girlfriend. He's not as happy as a clam. That's why he's pressing himself back into your world & transgressing your boundries. He got good supply & weak boundries there in the past. He's pulling the same tricks again. Really, change numbers, get away ASAP. If you feel any weakness for him, he'll hook you again. I just do not believe that he's doing well with the new girlfriend. Unless he did a "send all" Merry X-mas & every single number in his phone (even people you don't know) got the message. But, as he sent the card addressed in another hand, he seems to be targeting you. Actually, sending a card in another handwriting is creepy. Are you afraid? Even a teeney-weeney bit? You could go for a Restraining Order. I'd say contacting you over & over, and contacting all your family, is a bit of stalking & harassing behavior. I know this would merit an RO in my state.
Dec 25 - 8PM
MsVulcan500
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Good for you!! You realize

Good for you!! You realize why he was sending these texts. Not because he cares, but just to keep everyone on the back burner in case he needs them in the future. This shouldn't be too hard on you since you know it means nothing. I have not heard from my XN, and I don't expect to. He sent an email the day before Thanksgiving and I just deleted it. I'm sure that pissed him off enough to keep him away for a while. Plus, he's got the new "perfect relationship" going hot and heavy right now so I am definitely out of mind. I'm glad you're not responding, keep it up! We all know this will pay off in the end.
Dec 25 - 9PM (Reply to #2)
4joys4
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Change your phone number.

Change your phone number.
Dec 25 - 11PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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agreed

change your cell number IMMEDIATELY and BLOCK his he probably got a new number to recontact all those who'd blocked him... BLOCK DELETE BLOCK BLOCK ~~~~~~~~~ The truth will set you free... but first it will piss you off - Gloria Steinem Visit My Abuse Website
Dec 26 - 8AM (Reply to #4)
baddream
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I just laughed

No need to change my numbers anymore because when I got the message I just laughed at what a fool he is. My business and entire life is attached to that number and he will probably somehow get a hold of the new one anyway. He had attached a picture of himself in a ridiculous pose next to his new "toy", looking so conceited with a nickname that he gives himself (name withheld -- who knows, there may be others on this list who got the same text!). I am sure he sent it to 100 other people who are all laughing at what a fool he is. At this point these messages are just confirmation of what he is. He must have been very short on supply on Christmas day, to have sent that out to so many people.. Even my daughter laughed at it-- she is just 12, but old enough to see that he was trying to do.