Merry Christmas!

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#1 Dec 24 - 4AM
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Merry Christmas!

Or, Happy Holidays for those who do not celbrate....

I want to take a moment to wish each and every one of you peace, joy, love and light.

We've been through so much...

We are all at different stages...

Make the commitment to make this Christmas about you.

My mother has already done the deed with attempting to ruin my Christmas...

I am looking forward to a day with my son - have no idea what we're gonna do - he did ask to go to midnight mass...I don't think I've done that since seventh grade myself!

At Christmas, we celebrate the birth of Jesus. I was too broke this year to buy my son a gift. I am going to get him something during the sales...I just could not get out, deal with the crowds - but we will spend time together, go to dinner do something we haven't done in ages.

For those of you in similar situations - alone...try to reach out to people...don't be too proud.

If you rather hibernate, buy some nice bubble bath, some wine, rent a few movies - comedies are probably best...and think about the future and how this year is coming to a close and how you are going to make the commmitment that as the old year ends, so will the old chapter of the DYFUNCTIONAL life you had with the Narc will also come to a close.

I don't know how to describe how I feel, but I am not sad, I am not angry...I'm not happy yet, but I am very much in a state of the present moment to moment. There is a semblance of peace and tranquility.

It will be hard tomorrow in certain ways - lack of energy, that was the good thing the Narc drives - but one way or the other tomorrow will be about my son and I and hopefully this will be the beginning of new traditions...

I hope each of you experience the same peace...our minds will take us anywhere we want to go.

Be kind to yourselves...you deserve it.

Do not reflect on what the Narc took away from you - Reflect upon all you learned and all you will achieve in his absence. The truth is, he could never take away that which you own.

The realization of your true essence - your authentic self.

Hugs....

Dec 24 - 11AM
Journey
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Merry Christmas

Thank you Michele and everyone else here. I am grateful I found you all and I wish you a very peaceful and joyous Christmas. I raise my glass (or cup of coffee at the moment - lol) to you all in prayer that we each find our own lighted path to celebrating the birth of new traditions and our authentic selves - I AM and WE ARE XO!! Journey on...

Journey on...

Dec 24 - 10AM
Deidre99
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Wonderful thread...thank you

Wonderful thread...thank you michele. Merry Christmas to everyone here, and may 2011 be a wonderful start to something new!
Dec 24 - 10AM
blueeyes
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Merry Christmas!!!

While decorating the tree, we found "HIS" ornaments. The kids and I looked at each other, glanced at the fireplace, smiled big, and gently placed them in the fire. We giggled because we all had the same idea without words... Good times!! :) Here's to a new year for all the supportive and strong woman members!! I thank you all for your continued kindness, support and encouragement. I count my blessings and "you all" are a blessing. Hugs!!
Dec 24 - 10AM (Reply to #11)
Goldie
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Good one

I would have done the same thing. Fine minds think a like. They all think a like while there abusing us, so I guess a lot of us think a like when we're done with them. Out with the old, in with the new. This is a new year NARC FREE. Cracks me up that you were all thinking the same thing. God bless, Goldie
Dec 24 - 9AM
MsVulcan500
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Merry Christmas everyone!!

As we all look forward to this holiday celebrating the birth of Jesus, let's reflect on the blessings in our lives. Be it family, friends, or just doing things our way. There will be no complaints about the food being served or how it's being served. There will be no complaints about the presents given, and certainly no dismay over presents received. There will be no fights, no no-shows, no worry about everything being done in a way to please one person over all others. If this is your first Christmas without the narc, just watch and observe everyone's mood, especially yours, and you will see everyone is just happier overall. Everyone have a safe and happy holiday!
Dec 24 - 8AM
ImStrong
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Merry Chistmas to all you

Merry Chistmas to all you strong individual and caring women..who have supportedx not only your family but found the love to love your former partners..You are all full of Joy and love..Please share it with those who deserve and admire you for having it.. I will be thinking and sending out Blessings to you all this christmas..Enjoy the Birth of Jesus..He brung us to this Board and the almighty.. They are the ones who guided you here and away from your Narc.. Thankyour blessings..I know I will be thanking all of mine.. Mery Christmas sisters Xxx "In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess you"

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Dec 24 - 8AM
faithinthefuture
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Merry Christmas

I woke up to a very gentle snow fall. It's beautiful :-) And I woke up this Christmas knowing I won't be worrying about if my family and traditions will be enough to make his Christmas special. My family and traditions are enough for me and I love them. I count my blessing I have them in my life and he's not. I thank God for where I am today. I wish all of you a time of reflection for the past year and what we have been through and how far we have come and how much better our lives are and will be in the new year. I wish you all very special moments with your family and friends. I hope you all find peace in your heart during the holidays. Love and Gods blessings to all of you!
Dec 24 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
Happy1
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Merry Christmas!

I hope this is a wonderful Narc free year for us all! I know I'm putting my faith in good things for my future now that I have released what didn't fit in my life. Only good things to come!! Merry Christmas! Happy1
Dec 24 - 8AM (Reply to #6)
Goldie
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Faithinthefuture

Hi, I just love your name. I started lol thinking about trying to make sure my traditions were ENOUGH for him. What a laugh that is now. I'm still laughing responding to you. Seems kind of ridiculous now. He was such a jerk and I was running around trying to make everything so perfect for him and he did nothing to make it special for me and my son. I had the finest food, the best music, decorations, gifts ect... He got me no present, spent NY's Eve with other people, did not get home until 8:00 the next morning, so what did I do??? I made a beautiful NY's dinner. What a riot I am. Always trying to please and make the other person feel special. Then shortly thereafter he goes to jail for 40 days for assault and I take his collect calls to the tune of 500.00 and race around trying to catch up on all the debt he incurred and then when he gets out he says: I realized when I got out of jail how old you look. Do ya think?? I am still laughing writing all of this down because it all seems so completely ridiculous now. This Christmas can only be better than that no matter what I do. I have cut loose so many people in my life this year and had a complete housecleaning on all levels literally. So there have not been a lot of parties and socializing this year. I quit my church, and that was a lot of my friends cuz they were completely intolerant of what I was going through. I sit here now, alone with my little tree and decorations and yummy food in the fridge thinking to myself reading your post, I could not be happier right now, laughing about how foolish I was last year and feeling absolutely no stress, no trying to explain myself to people, no trying to prove myself to anyone. I do have faithforthefuture right now. I have let go of all the poison from last year and it will be a better year for me and I wish this for all of you as well. Thanks for the blessings and I wish those to you as well and everyone on here. God bless, Goldie
Dec 24 - 7AM
truetotruth
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Merry Christmas Too

Merry Christmas!!! I promise I will be thinking of every single one of you tonight and tomorrow..... Also I am going to have a glass of eggnog ( a la spiced heavily) tonite so I will be raising my glass to you all in the hopes that 2011 is a new beginning and a fresh start. May all your dreams and wishes come true. May the angel of peace find you all. Love and the brightest of light. Becca
Dec 24 - 5AM
Scotchy71
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You too

Have an amazing Christmas and I hope you have a fantastic day with your son. You know what? All we lost is what we didn't deserve - that's not a bad thing, really. I'm in a place similar to you but I do have better days than bad now which is a huge relief, it's such a gut wrenching process - not only do we go through what they dish out, but then we have to recover from it as well - we are so strong!!!! x
Dec 24 - 4AM
Used
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michelle115

Do not reflect on what the Narc took away from you - Reflect upon all you learned and all you will achieve in his absence. The truth is, he could never take away that which you own. The realization of your true essence - your authentic self. Hugs.... THAKYOU.....USEDxxxx
Dec 24 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Janet
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Merry Christmas and Happy

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays ladies and gent! This is my 2nd Christmas without N/P. Last year was VERY difficult (as final contact and his coup de grace was December 16th), this one is already better. Heading up to my mom and dad's for a few days. I hope you all have either a happy few days or make it through them. Thank you all for the amazing gifts that are here everyday! with much love, Peace. J

Peace. J