Meeting him for dinner tonight

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#1 Sep 15 - 9AM
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Meeting him for dinner tonight

Hi all,
I finally told my narc of 14 years to move out. I thought he was cerebral, now I'm thinking he's somatic. I have celebrities in my family so hence my handle, which means he is stuck like chewing gum to my shoe. Like you guys, I am in love with missing pretend guy who shows up whenever he needs to briefly. After he moved out last month (and he took everything we acquired and left me with the belongings i had when we met - including our wedding dishes, glasses, ring, etc.) he said he was setting up a separate house for "us" with just "our things" because my 98 year old mother lives with us (quiet sweet bedridden) and he feels it is not our home.
Anyway he twists everything and says he moved because I made him and he thought I didn't love him, but really he was being narc - silent treatment, rude, angry, the other guy that i don't know... (not missing pretend guy). So now he has 4 or 6 girlfriends, two by my house, one at his job location.
And I started crying. And he said he didn't realize I really loved him. And I said I love you not your behavior. And he said I'm the only one and let's try it again, without mom. But we will commute back and forth until I find a home for her.
And I have his email because I handle the business with him. And he gets emails from girls at night. And he tells me his phone went dead and wouldn't go on until morning.
And he is scrambling now because I called him on that, and he is trying to ascertain where I will be when, and trying to make a date today... So I am meeting him for dinner. To find out the truth, the lies. To go through his emails one by one. All this time I thought he was maybe stupid but now I see 14 years with a snake?
And yet, I keep thinking everything somehow is gonna work out. I wanna crawl back in the arms of my husband. BUt who is he really? Why can't I let go? What is wrong with me?

Sep 16 - 4PM
neverlookback
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Celebrity

Sep 16 - 3PM
neverlookback
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where did I read once

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #60)
tryingtorecover
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Nerverlookback nails it

Sep 16 - 3PM (Reply to #58)
Celebrity NS
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Wonderful, poetic

Sep 19 - 3AM (Reply to #59)
Froglegs
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The only person you need to

Sep 16 - 3PM
LoserFree
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Celebrity I have not posted

Sep 16 - 10PM (Reply to #56)
Im_always_fine
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That's an extremely

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #54)
tryingtorecover
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Omg looser free

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #55)
LoserFree
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trying thanks for saying

Sep 16 - 3PM (Reply to #48)
Celebrity NS
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Just got rid of him

Sep 17 - 6AM (Reply to #53)
Goldie
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LOL, CLEARLY you have not read Lisa's book

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #49)
LoserFree
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I'm 21 weeks out so I am not

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #52)
Celebrity NS
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Loser Free

Sep 16 - 4PM (Reply to #50)
Celebrity NS
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Thank you

Sep 16 - 11PM (Reply to #51)
Im_always_fine
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If members are ferocious in

Sep 16 - 1PM
Celebrity NS
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THANK YOU EVERYONE

Sep 16 - 11AM
talktothehand
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Enough?

Sep 16 - 11AM (Reply to #37)
Celebrity NS
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Change the scenario

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #42)
Deidre99
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He fucks other women, while

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #43)
Celebrity NS
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It's so true Deidre

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #44)
Deidre99
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It's an incredibly hard

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #45)
Celebrity NS
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I am in this marriage alone.

Sep 16 - 12PM (Reply to #40)
Janie53
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CelebrityNS

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #41)
Celebrity NS
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I'm not Janie

Sep 16 - 12PM (Reply to #38)
talktothehand
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De Nile

Sep 16 - 1PM (Reply to #39)
Celebrity NS
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OK

Sep 16 - 9AM
Celebrity NS
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I was home by 11.

Sep 17 - 4PM (Reply to #34)
BethanyK
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Are you seeing a professional?

Sep 18 - 9PM (Reply to #35)
Celebrity NS
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Professional help is hard to find

Sep 16 - 10AM (Reply to #31)
Im_always_fine
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You are talking like a