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Meet the New Narc...dun dun dun....Same as the Old Narc...dun dun dun....

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#1 Nov 28 - 6AM
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Meet the New Narc...dun dun dun....Same as the Old Narc...dun dun dun....

LOL I wish I had musical note emoticons to put in the title!

I have to re-share this story post narc of my date with a new narc...because it's just SO outrageous and I seriously wonder if I would have caught the red flags with this new one 7 years ago....

So I meet this guy...cute, doesn't blow my hair back cute...but cute. So we email back and forth; I find out he's an independent business owner, lives on the north shore of Chicago, has a beautiful German Shepherd, etc. We decide to talk...so we have a phone convo.

Okay that was unreal. I have to hear about his crazy Russian ex-wife (narc sign number one) and his really good friend who's an ex (narc sign number two, triangulation), who he's apparently been talking with about me. ICK! I decide wtf and go out to dinner with him....but more along the lines of doing a science project on the study of narcissists in their habitat than any actual romantic intentions.

o.m.f.g.

Again, with the convos about the crazy Russian ex wife and then the g/f over the summer who wouldn't "put out"...and discussions about how stressful his business is...not ONE single question about me anywhere on this date...I don't even think he knows what I do for a living. Then I get treated to a display at his home of his two Aston Martin DB7s in the garage...oh and he picked me up in his '64 Corvette...the inside of his house? LMAO! Talk about OCD ffs...it was something out of the Jetsons. All 50's retro with 3 authentic juke boxes, the kitchen 'diner' theme...it was like being in a fucking museum. If I lived there, I'd probably be crazy too. Then on to the horrendous medical problem he had that of course, involved his dick...doesn't it always? This was beyond TMI...thankfully, I got out alive.

He called a couple times after that whining about work again...and I'm finally like..."dude what is WITH you and all of the fucking drama?!?!"

That's the last I ever heard from him....he knew I wasn't good supply. I still laugh about the whole thing, seriously!

Nov 28 - 11AM
Victim-no-more
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And I get on my knees and

And I get on my knees and pray......we don't get fooled again!!!!!!!
Nov 28 - 10AM
a65703
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Bloody brilliant!

Bloody brilliant!
Nov 28 - 7AM
Hunter
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OMG!! A Narc on the North

OMG!! A Narc on the North Shore??? No.... Hunter
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #20)
Syren66 (not verified)
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I know...what ARE the odds?

I know...what ARE the odds? :D
Nov 28 - 7AM
Sea
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Eeeek narc!! Its the me me

Eeeek narc!! Its the me me me!! Only wants to talk abt him!! Then crazy women crazy exes crazy this and that but the reality is he is nuts! And his home looking like a ........ Okie enough said! Throw him in the garbage and Next!! LOL
Nov 28 - 6AM
Alissa
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hahahaha LOL I really like

hahahaha LOL I really like your science project on the study of narcissists in their habitat!! You should see the inside of my N's house. It's all perfect, but at the same time it looks very creepy. He is very scared that I 'make dust' when I take off my coat (??) , he told me to stop waving it around so wildly . (???????)
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #13)
Syren66 (not verified)
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OMG My Sides are Hurting....

from laughing at this: "He is very scared that I 'make dust' when I take off my coat (??) , he told me to stop waving it around so wildly . (???????)" ....with all the question marks, I can only imagine the actual look on your face when he said that!
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #14)
Alissa
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LOL yes I thought he was

LOL yes I thought he was joking when he said that, so I was about to start laughing! However, when I saw the look on his face..... :he looked dead serious!!! And then I didn't dare to start laughing (inside I was) , and I even got lectured on how I should take off my coat so as not to make dust!! LOL
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #15)
Syren66 (not verified)
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That is right up there with

That is right up there with the exNarc snapping because I tossed my toenail clippings into the toilet. Literally, he thought they could potentially cause a clogged drain.
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #16)
Alissa
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We should start a whole new

We should start a whole new thread about this... LOL!! .... dust and toenail clippings!! And the funniest of it all is that this is a real TRUTH to them (toe nail clippings causing a clogged drain.........aaaaaaaaaaargh!! )
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #17)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Go for it!

Yah that was SO retarded, I was just standing there with a slack jaw, trying to make sure I didn't hear him wrong...that of course led to a 2 day argument. Over toenail clippings. And I'M the one who needs meds?!!?
Nov 28 - 6AM
Syren66 (not verified)
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I made a few bad decisions

I made a few bad decisions that kept me in an unworkable relationship for longer than I should have stayed...but i knew from the very beginning it was doomed...without having any of the knowledge I do now...my mind and heart are not closed to decent men...but for those whose intentions are less than totally honorable, I have all kinds of fun plans for them.
Nov 28 - 6AM
onwithmylife
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syren

they are everywhere, my first i thought good date, 3 years out from the narc happens to be a man who lives with his 83 year old mommy, tells me he doesn't understand womed tells me when i say i am a one woman guy and was not happy about his going out with other woemn while we were dating 7 times and getting to know each other, than i was being too controlling and manipulating gee, i could not even express my feelings to the moron on line, NEXT. told him i was not about to be one of his women friends!! IDIOT when it came to women, not a clue and it was a dealbreaker with him because I did not like my music BLARING LOUD, DUD???????????? Liked your story but typical that is why it is so hard to meet a nice kind man who cares about us. He asked nothing about me, i had to tell him, it was all about him........
Nov 28 - 6AM (Reply to #10)
Syren66 (not verified)
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I offered that retard zero

I offered that retard zero information about me. After the first 2 minutes of the initial phone convo when I realized it was all about him, I decided that if the unlikely event presented itself that he fucked up and asked a question about me, I had every intention of lying to him...and do it in such an outrageous way, he'd KNOW I was screwing with him...like...I am an astrophysicist for NASA as my line of work. Or...I'm a Secret Service Agent, a paid assassin for the CIA; ssomething like that. Because if it's a narc, the only reason they are asking you questions is to formulate their scheme to control you with the information later. They get NADA from me.
Nov 28 - 6AM
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Narcdar

Syren, it is so reassuring to know that our post-N experience has given us X-ray vision for narc red flags! The one gift of this experience is that for the first time ever in my life, I feel very comfortable in my abilities to keep myself safe in dating relationships. I got married so young, and went right into relationship with 2 narcissistic psychopaths without taking a break from my marriage first, that I didn't even realize I should have those skills, much less realize that I didn't have them. Difficult for me to comprehend just how naïve I was....
Nov 28 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
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Me too .. empath:)

me too. (raises right hand in affirmation) “I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then” said Alice. Speaking about myself..like Alice" “I generally gave myself very good advice, (though very seldom followed it)” Syren, thank you for starting this useful thread. It helps one take a good look at oneself, then step back in appraisal..and then move ahead. On a lonely road, but a safe path.
Nov 28 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Syren66 (not verified)
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Sure thing, freaked! Go out,

Sure thing, freaked! Go out, have fun...doesn't have to be "Mr. Right"...you may just trip across him unintentionally...for those who are clearly Mr. Wrong...use them for experimentation...kind of like spores on a petrie dish.
Nov 28 - 7AM (Reply to #7)
freaked
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That's a fun thought

That's a fun thought Syren!!! I don't look too old.. can pass off as a 30+, quite easily.. *wicked grin*.. Lemme see what I can do... maybe join some place where handsome narcy hunks hang out...then lead 'em up da gargen path..and drop 'em. I would be a narc-swatter soon.. let me mull over this...and then who knows what tomorrow has in store!!!! the best gift i got after 20+ years of marriage with NH is...i am no longer a silly romantic girlie.. rather I would know how to be worldlywise and streeet smart.. or would I?
Nov 28 - 6PM (Reply to #8)
Syren66 (not verified)
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It's our civic duty as

It's our civic duty as cougars to carry out the narcicide campaign where others have failed! :D
Nov 28 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
Syren66 (not verified)
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BINGO!!!!

"I didn't even realize I should have those skills, much less realize that I didn't have them. Difficult for me to comprehend just how naïve I was...." oh SNAP! Same here!
Nov 28 - 6AM (Reply to #4)
empath
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ignorance is not bliss!

Not knowing what it is you don't know...and very much need to know! Thank God for Google and for this forum lol.
Nov 28 - 6AM
Syren66 (not verified)
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Oh, and I almost forgot to

Oh, and I almost forgot to mention what an obnoxious pain in the ASS he was with the waitress. Narc sign number 3...watch how they treat people who serve them...that's how you'll eventually be treated.