MaryLyons Story

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#1 Feb 27 - 12PM
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MaryLyons Story

My old new story....

Hey Everyone

My story starts with losing my mother suddenly - I was in a 13 year happyish marriage - plodding along with two sons of 16 and 22.....then when my mum died i started questioning my life and obviously going through some real grief too at losing my best mate - I decided to seek the help of a bereavement counselor, who was very good but the topic turned to my relationship - suddenly it hit me square on - I did not love my husband anymore - we had grown apart - nobodys fault - it happens - so I told him....I really hurt him and he got angry - we lived together for 6 months but were not together - me in bedroom - him on couch living separate lives - then one Saturday nite i mentioned I was going to our local for a few drinks with a female friend and if he was not busy to join us later - he said he might just do that - deep down at that moment - I thought a possible reconciliation was on the cards...........but on no....it got to 9.00pm and he was not there so I phoned his mobile - he was at another pub and said no I'm not coming I am enjoying myself here - so what did I do? Threw myself at the single lecherous landlord (who had expressed an interest the month before but i had dismissed him as being the ugliest man I had ever seen) - He was a true gent that night as I was drunk and I mean drunk - We swapped numbers somehow and he promised to text me.....Which he did and we arranged another meeting on the Sunday night - he was so lovely - in fact quite nervy in my presence and said he had been hurt before and listened to me pour my heart out about my husband - he stuck up for me and said he was asshole. This was music to my sorry ears - was this love/lust - he was not good looking at all but he listened and said and promised all the right things - he said he wanted to move away to a nicer area and run a pub together ...I was smitten - we were furiously exchanging texts all the time....then a few days later he asked me to go to the pub as he was closing earlier - so I met him - I went to his house and again he was lovely and a complete gentleman... this happened a few times and then I told my husband i had met someone and he went balistic - event though he had not wanted to know me....He threw me out and told me to have my clothes by the time he and my son had come back - so i told the new man and he said move in with me love - I dont mind and I did - really uncharacturistic of me but I was in love......yes after a few days....he treat me like gold - said wonderful things to me - he said i was like a rare diamond and it was my husband's loss - the weeks passed and relationship for the first couple of weeks was idyllic - but then the cracks started to show - he would start picking little points with me - have you eaten something from the fridge - you know you should watch your weight! The only time i went out was to sit at the bar with him and he totally ignored me choosing to chat up the young girl behind his bar as he insisted on getting young girls - for the punters he said but he seemed to take up all their time...If I said anything he would blow up saying he was not there to entertain me and that i was paranoid with jealousy issues....When we went out usually on a Saturday during the day he would lech at anything in a skirt and I dont mean a quick glimpse a long lingering stare until the girl looked back at him....I had to put up or shut up....then there was the money side...In the beginning I paid him a nominal amount to help with his bills and shopping etc then he asked for more and more and then a booked a fabulous cruise holiday and announced he would need me to save at least £200 a month towards it....Like a fool I did it...he made me buy my own drinks at his pub whilst he helped himself....

The worst things were the long periods of silence - if I dared question anything - this would last days and he would not come near me in the bedroom like I had lepers. He would say go sleep in the attic I cant stand you in my bed. He would even on occasion lock the bedroom door so I could not go in there I had to sleep in the attic,,,

I am crying just typing this....then i found he was into porn in a big way - which is something i have never liked or experienced....he had it stashed everywhere on his pc - dvds - magazines in his bedside cabinet and he was also on dating sites and not the normal ones - the ones offering no string sex....

What a monster I had met and yet even after leaving him several times and even once getting my own house - I went back to him.. He would cry and say how much he loved me and missed me and I think part of me wanted to show my husband i had not made a big mistake....

Eventually, I left for good or so I thought - he had booked another elaborate cruise to China - for a month and i had paid my half but he was so horrible to me prior to the trip i left and went to live with my sister. He said he want alone but I forced him into having to sex with someone over there as i had treat him so bad....

I now have my own place - and am a bit lonely but settled...I no longer feel nervous about him coming home and whether I have eaten anything or something is out of place but I still miss him like crazy.....I love him the bastard! It is taking all my strength not to contact him again - a friend at work said he was with someone else now - who looks just like me....

I have started joining dating sites - nice ones to take my mind off him and he started viewing my profile and winking at me - he is sadistic....he sometimes prank calls my phone too....

My last words to him a week ago by text were "you are dead to me" so we shall see - Thanks for reading x

Feb 27 - 2PM
Hunter
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Welcome.. You need to work on

Feb 27 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
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Therapy