Male Narcissists' Friendships With Other Men?

My exN had NO friends... I always thought that was kind of strange. Now that he's "single" (if you want to call it that) he goes out once in a while with guys he works with... other cops who also cheat on their girlfriends/wives. Now that I know he's a narc, I figure he has no friends bc they would be competition... or they'd figure him out. He kept people at an arm's distance so he always looked like the good guy. He knew I had a ton of friends (some since first grade) and I remember him once telling me... "I am your priority- only your daughter should come before me". WTF was I thinking!?!

My narc had zero male friends and my ex husband helped him move out of my house. That's how many friends he has. He has female friends but they aren't just friends. So mine spoke only of females and what a joy to be done with that crap!

My ex had male friends! Two of them were Gay, one he called Ambiguously Gay (appeared asexual), the other was a much older guy From Work that he mooched U of A basketball tickets off of. Because the man was often too tired to use the tickets himself. I believe he didn't have male friends because they were a Threat To The Almighty Overly-Sensitive Ego. Excuse me, I freaking hate him today. I wish I could run him over with my car. Repeatedly.

The only friend mine has is his mother. He said he had all these friends,looking back they would run the other way when the would see him. He had two women friends. One was obese and the other( Im guessing ) is the OW. They really dont have any friends, When he heard I was still friends with my friend from 1st grade he made some comment like "that's wierd. " When my D & D came to surface, he told me since ive been married for so long i dont even know what a real relationship is. I have many long term friends Ive had for many years and before he came along my marriage was fine. Guys, I have to tell you my narc and all these narcs are so Fu8*&ED up its a wast of our time obessing about it. I have to say Im totally cured. He makes me want to puke. The only thing I can say i miss is when we wold snuggle on his couch. Even then he was too cheap to take me out to a nice place. BTW: another D&D According to him we didnt go anywhere because I dont have proper manners. HMMMM!!! I just got back from Paris and dined at a Michiin 2 star Resturant. Whatever, See ya later dude. Idealk

The more the ex-Psych professor emotionally abused me, the more his colleagues (especially the male ones) shunned him. He'd say that he had "cut a lot of people off." I think the only adult male he respects is his father. Some he's afraid of, some don't want anything to do with him. Maybe he and his father should wear matching sweaters, because my brother in-law and nephew get compliments for that. I should suggest that.

No real friends - has some aquaintances, mostly people he does business with, he calls them friends. But, they are not, they put up with him because he may throw some business their way, but they never socialize like friends would. Also - the minute they are no longer of use to him "poof", they are gone.

Who the hell knows? Mine had one friend who was the contractor on his house, but then he fired him for some reason. They used to go out all the time, and I think he lost a lot of money and couldn't pay anymore when they went out. We all went out once and their conversation was like some bizarre spy code. I wasn't allowed to talk at all. He had another friend, his "best friend" who I wasn't allowed to meet. I know he was a guy because he would answer the phone and chat with him when he called, but something weird was going on there too because the narc said "You will not meet him ever." Then there was the guy who he hung out with most of the time. The narc even had his own room in the guy's house. I suspect they were banging each other and probably doing coke as well. However, when the narc moved into the new house, he didn't even tell him . When they had plans and he was going to get picked up by the other guy, the narc would actually go wait in front of his old house so he wouldn't find out about the move. So bizarre I can't even begin to imagine what was going on with any of these people. The women friends, of course, turned out to be girlfriends. He would claim they were just old friends, like family. I asked him what they talked about when they were together and he said, "Nothing. Just like us, baby."

There was an openly gay professor at my college. He was also the ONLY one. I think he and the ex-Psych professor had a brief liaison and that it did NOT end well. At all. The gay professor would walk around campus with his handsome younger Asian boyfriend. I think the ex-P and the gay prof had been more than friends. The gay professor warned me that the ex-P really wasn't listening to me, that he wasn't respecting me... he brought up important issues. In the long-term, he was the one who helped save me from marrying the ex-P. He'd say that the ex-P was USING me.

one close friend from old work days and they would talk ever so often or the friend would come to his place and help him out with things in the household. I met the male friend a few times and he was a nice enough man .that was about it, he led a very isolated life part from work and when he retired, and left for another state, without me, I cannot imagine how lonely his life must be, apart from calling one of his older sons every Sunday who is in another state.

Mine has one friend from college he sees once a year, that's right once a year on his birthday as it falls in line with Thanksgiving.....the perfect family....what he wants...sees them once a year OF COURSE THEY'RE ON THEIR BEST BEHAVIOUR...geeeezzz.....he has one other male friend (never met either) who lives in the same building as he does.....the rest, female friends from work he talked about relentlessly and would go to the soccer with, outings etc. But then there were the mysterious "ex-colleauges" who would fly in to town for the night, they would go out for dinner and then he'd go straight to bed after - I'll bet....I guess I was one of his ex-colleauges too then!!!

a few close guy friends he hung out with - mostly all younger. he would always make up excuses for being out with them (instead of me) or would conveniently forget plans that we made and then ditch me to be with them all day. he looked up to one guy in particular and started assuming some of this guys likes/dislikes. if we were together as a couple amongst his friends, my ex-N acted like i was invisible. oddly enough, he doesn't have any friends who's known him a long time (say 8+ years). of those, there were a few, but seems like he's D&Ded them or vica versa. his pattern has always been a "relationship" or "marriage" with a woman. after that supply is secured, he disappears with his friends and does whatever the h*ll he wants. of all the people in his life, i'm the one he's known and remained in his life the longest (although, now that i've been discarded again for another OW, i guess my name is crossed off the supply list)

Mine had a motley assortment of guy friends he would meet for mysterious cups of coffee at street cafes. I think he only did it to pass the time really and so he would feel as though he actually had friends because whenever he got home from meeting one of them he'd talk about how boring they were and how there was nothing to talk about. He'd refer to them as "emergency friends". I could relate to needing friends when you've just moved somewhere and hanging out with pretty much anyone as you work out who you want around you and who you don't, but he'd been living in the area for over four years! He had two or three other friends he seemed closer to. All guys. One of them was gay and I think he had a crush on the narc and the narc owed him money. Another was a guy who he used to live with and the narc wanted to keep him friendly so he could go and stay with him whenever he wanted to free of charge (the house is in a pretty good location) and the last one was a guy that would give him work now and then. It seemed to me really that he only kept people around who were useful to him, and there definitely weren't any women he was close to.

He had a few, but he D&Ded them, too. One is his cousin, who he ended up suing, and another a childhood friend who he cut off when he thought the guy charged him too much to repair his AC. He hoovered them back in later, when he needed them. He D&Ded his group of buddies who live out of state and I believe they are still estranged. However, I've often thought that he probably had to lure them back since I have been out of his life - not enough supply. I noticed him doing this to his friends, knowing it's not "normal", but never realized what exactly it meant. I just felt sort of honored that he could push others away, but I was always "good enough" to be there and keep around. It wasn't later that I figured out he kept me around just because I was there. And there were a few women who were acquaintances, only one friend I know of and she became useless when she got married.

He seemed to cling on to women more.

Seems he has no close friends, men or women, that he hangs out with, like most guys do. He does not go to bars and watch sports, or to someone's house to do so, like a lot of men do, even though he is an avid fan. It seems he is solitary,as I am, and the men he speaks of in his life are spoken of my what they do for work or some other attribute, be it negative or positive.

Most of my NH friends were substantially younger than him. I think this was because it was easier to manipulate them. His older male friends didn't come around much. hmmmmm I wonder why

He had friends but most of them never lasted that long. His one best friend was not nearly as good looking and mostly the best friend would pine away and console all of the girlfriends. It really was quite sad because I think he enjoyed watching his friend be envious of all the pretty girls he had. Nowadays from what I could tell because he doesn't live in my town anymore they are all people who do work for him. His underlings