I have been married for 21 years. Last year I met a man at work, he started with instant messaging me with an application used for our jobs. Nothing really specific just that he had a little boy with his "ex". He explained he had married her because she had gotten pregnant (she has two other children with two other men)and he lived with a roommate while working two jobs. Within a month he started saying he missed me when I wasn't with him, I was never allowed to have his cell number just a third party messaging application to communicate after work hours. We had a lunch date (he told me he couldn't afford the lunch so we had drinks). Funny but quite he didn't speak much of his family so we kept the conversation light. We continued chatting through work and after hours. He used to say I wish you could be watching TV with me right now. When I asked why I couldn't he explained his roommate didn't allow visitors so I shrugged it off. All conversations were basically about him, he was stressed he hated working with stupid people, I always tried to make him see the positive and tell him how smart and funny he was. Eventually I moved to be closer to my job which allowed me to be closer to him. Once I moved, that's when the sex started. He was messaging me all the time and things were great. However, within the month he started to pull away. Then he told me he was going on vacation while he was away I found out he was on vacation with his family in Myrtle Beach! When he came back we did'nt speak for three weeks and then I said hi in the break room one day and we started talking again. Things went back to constant messaging and talking. Basically he slowly would hint he had moved back home and we continued seeing each other through the summer. After sex he generally pulls away and doesn't text. Another vacation came about in August and he told me it was for two days, which turned into a full week. Lately my messages at work have dwindled to once a day and the third party application has not been used in well over a month. finally the other day after being ignored for the entire day I received a message Thursday. That's when I blew up and told him it was over. I haven't heard from him after that. I have read some of the stories and I have never received gifts or anything like that from him. I'm not even sure if he is a "N" or just a player.